It's like our neighbor with a baby isn't even there.

[fowlmamma]

our friend married this girl and we never would see them years went by and i thought the girl hated me and they moved right down the road from us so i tried to be a friend to her again . pi am very social and could pretty much talk to a wall . well i came over her house for a glass of wine and she broke down in tears telling me how she is antisocial and has panick attacks when people are around. she is a hermit still, she stays in her house with her kids and never go out and try new things i just try everyday to invite her places and come to her house and visit and just hope she gets over this. but i would just try to be welcoming and she most likely has issues you dont know about.

 

[cafe]

Wow. So that's how other people think of me, lol.

Or rather did when my children were small. Now that the youngest of my four is 11 I'm outside a lot more. When they were little I was just exhausted all the time. I remember one place we lived, the women were actually doing silly stuff like having tea parties where you had to wear hats and stuff. I know some people are into that, but I like to read, play MMORPGs online, and chat online. I don't want a hostile relationship with my neighbors, but just because someone is my neighbor does not mean I'm obligated to interact with them.

I'm a fairly introverted person. Being around other folks, especially ones who like to scrutinize, just wears me out. I save my energy for people I already have relationships with, like old friends and family.

 

[Godsgrl]

maybe the mom is working long hours, such as an RN or something?

 

[Rusty Hills Farm]

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I try not to comment on other people's doings, but that sounds almost like agoraphobia to me. If someone else has to deal with repairmen.... that's pretty far off the map of normal behavior. Just my opinion, I'm no expert, but I'm glad you are her SIL, not me!

ER...I'm her BIL and she is not agoraphobic. She 's not afraid of people; she just doesn't like them. That's what can happen when you see one too many rotten thing happen when you idolize dogs and horses and deal with the terrible things people do to them. She used to do the whole show scene back when she was younger. Rescue kinda gave her a whole different view of people. Now that she is retired, she cannot be bothered with people anymore. She finds most people boring and two-faced. Nowadays she spends her time in her garden and hybridizes African Violets and spends the rest of her time out in the barn. She will deal with people when she has no other choice but if there is another family member she can dump them on, she will handle it. She is the one who first suggested to me that homo sapiens are actually a pest that plague this planet rather than the "gift from God" that we think of ourselves as.

She is a trip!

And I am just suggesting that maybe, like my SIL, the OP's neighbor is just not enamored of people and would much prefer to be left alone. Doing so might actually be a kindness.

Rusty

 

[Wolfwoman]

You know what I find funny about this thread is that most people complain about neighbors that are too nosy, or too loud are bother them too much. NOT about one that's hardly ever heard from

 

[AngieChick]

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Oh, I can totally understand how one could get jaded with people in general. If I worked in a rescue situation I would end up throwing my hands up in disgust as well.

I have been getting a strong urge to "go hermit" for awhile. Not for any reason other than I want to. I'm not depressed, I'm actually pretty happy and social. But, we just bought this wonderful place in the woods and I want to enjoy it, work on my weaving, cook/bake, and garden until late into the evening. People are just different, with different social needs and desires. It's important to respect each other's ways and quirks. Variety being the spice of life, etc.....

 

[Xodrana]

Maybe someone did her in and burried her in the yard. Strange that the hubby never mentions her. Ask one of the other kids how mommy and the little sister or brother is. Watch their reaction closely.

 

[MaggieRae]

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I try not to comment on other people's doings, but that sounds almost like agoraphobia to me. If someone else has to deal with repairmen.... that's pretty far off the map of normal behavior. Just my opinion, I'm no expert, but I'm glad you are her SIL, not me!

ER...I'm her BIL and she is not agoraphobic. She 's not afraid of people; she just doesn't like them. That's what can happen when you see one too many rotten thing happen when you idolize dogs and horses and deal with the terrible things people do to them. She used to do the whole show scene back when she was younger. Rescue kinda gave her a whole different view of people. Now that she is retired, she cannot be bothered with people anymore. She finds most people boring and two-faced. Nowadays she spends her time in her garden and hybridizes African Violets and spends the rest of her time out in the barn. She will deal with people when she has no other choice but if there is another family member she can dump them on, she will handle it. She is the one who first suggested to me that homo sapiens are actually a pest that plague this planet rather than the "gift from God" that we think of ourselves as.

She is a trip!

And I am just suggesting that maybe, like my SIL, the OP's neighbor is just not enamored of people and would much prefer to be left alone. Doing so might actually be a kindness.

Rusty

I think I'd like her.

 

[mickistoy]

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me thinks too much law and order or name mispelled..XodraMa

 

[gettinaclue]

I'm not terribly social either. When I'm at work, I smile and do the customer service thing, but at home, I'd much rather be left alone.
We've lived here for 7 years now and I have 3 other people on this road besides myself and we all like to keep to ourselves. We all came out to help one another when we were buried under the big snows this past winter, and the young man next door help us cut up the tree that fell on the house a few years ago. Other than that, we leave each other alone mostly.

I do have neighbors on the other street whose property connects with ours we hang out with every few months, but that's it.

I like it this way. I am very busy with my family and house and garden and lawn and chickens and work and the kids school ect ect. And some days I enjoy being a blob. Lol.

I say leave her be. She probably would have contact you by now if she was interested.

No offense intended.