If you are going to marry him you will have to get used to that action. Its the wedding, then the babies, the birthday parties,Holidays and there is no end. I have been thru this for years and finally we just withdrew and told our kids we would have get togethers at our house and they could get together with their Mom at her house. It was called to much togetherness! Sounds like you did well though and I did for a few times and then it was too stressful esp. when we showed up at one of the weddings in the same dress! I could have died!!! The kids actually confessed later that they were uncomfortable also, so it all worked out!