Lashing out, mostly out of disgruntledness

[mamagardener]

I don't have a lot, but I am happy with what I have. In my town, there are people who have lost jobs or taken pay cuts. There are lots of people who live in these big beautiful houses, and they can't even pay for heat. They have to go to food pantries, because all they can do is pay their mortgage. The more stuff you buy, the more you can end up losing. I would love to have a big house and marble bathroom, but I want to make sure I can take care of the important things first. I also feel that people who brag, a lot of times are insecure. Who cares how much you have? I care what kind of person you are. As far as I am concerned, if I am healthy and happy, that is all I need.

 

[EweSheep]

You guys got some good suggestions and advices! I dont do Facebook or any "ME,ME and all about ME" websites, but my Mother has the tendencies to keep up with the Joneses and tell her daughters, my sis and me, to bring up to our level of standards up higher! Jeez, we only have limited income the way our husbands work and how much we can spend freely on our way AFTER bills has been paid. Not very much left over, that's for sure! All I am happy is being with my family, my husband and DD and my chickens, garden and a nice house. I dont need to keep up with the Joneses next door, heck, I would go BROKE doing that! Now my Mother is complaining nothing gets done around here.

TOO BAD!! We got a whole lifetime to finish it and if we dont get it finished, someone else after us would after they buy the house! It just takes time and money and a little at a time goes a long ways and not have to worry about paying the debts to get those things!

 

[HennysMom]

Sorry you're feeling so blah Olli

You know - as others have said - life is what you make it in all honesty. You're looking at a site that is online - where people can type whatever they want - and make up whatever they desire. Photoshop is an amazing tool btw....

and cut and paste is even more amazing. It never ceases to amaze me how many people (young, like your age - and older...like mine) that will "create" this lifestyle in their own minds and really believe they live it.

What they fail to mention is how far in debt they are - how unhappy they are in reality, how their SO isnt very attentive (or is cheating), etc.. the list goes on and on and on. It tends to be those that "gloat" about their "lifestyles" that are the most unhappiest and ..well... that are lying in all honesty. If I hear one more girl (and yes.. I mean girl) say to me "Oh why dont you have a Coach / DB purse? Why dont you have Prada shoes? Why dont you have.... blahhhhhhhhhhh blahhhhhhhhh blahhhhhhhhhh

" I'm going to whack them upside the head with THEIR Coach purse and then zing them with their very Prada shoe!

My life is perfectly fine wearing my Hanes t-shirts and levi jeans - thank you very much - and my wallet works just as well as theirs does - and no..it doesnt say COACH on it

but it still holds my checkbook and my debit card and it saved me about $200.00 less than that stupid wallet they have!

I guess what I 'm saying is learn to appreciate what you do have - a loving boyfriend/SO - and that you arent caught up in material things because trust me - material things can be taken away and then what are you left with if you're so dependant upon those "brands" and items? Not much

In my book - you're ahead of the game sweetie.... so just smile and be appreciative for what you do have and realize that in any given moment, it could all be taken away from you - and.... that cashier you blew up at.... could be you one day - so, although we all blow up every now and again, your anger - even if the cashier was being incosiderate to you - wasnt deserved. Go pay her a visit and apologize...you'll feel better and so will she. Maybe she was struggling with wondering how to make ends meet to pay bills and was a bit snippy, maybe her hours just got cut back at work, maybe her baby is sick and she cant pay to get meds. ..maybe ..maybe..maybe...you just never know - just like she didnt know how you were feeling either.

Remember - you never know what someone else is going through.

 

[EweSheep]

Hennys, I LOVE your comments about purses and Prada shoes!

Funny I do not want to relive my high school days nor want to be in "competitive" of goreousness contests with classmates. Who f****** cares!!! Beauty are not going to be around forever, your individualness would carry you to the distance when you can be self sufficent and know how to garden and get DIRTY with the Mother Nature to reap and toll the vegetables you want to provide your family with! Now can those "so called beauties" do THAT????? I dont mean gardening gloves either!

 

[LA~Poulet]

Olli, I'm probably close to your age (not 30 yet) and recently I noticed weight, hair, skin & nail changes, visibly, and a definite attitude change. My regular doctor tried to suggest it was just 'growing older' (at not even 30?). I went to a nutritionist who suggested that I might start with supplementing vitamins & things to strengthen thyroid/adrenals (because they regulate hormones). I can't tell you the difference I noticed, in just one week. When I am irregular about taking the supplements, I notice an adverse difference, as well. Just a thought.

On the FB note, I love FB. Many people use it to stay in touch with distant friends (my two closest and longest friends live on opposite ends of the USA, and I'm in the middle) and family. I have noticed that some use it as a bragging spot "look at my new [house, camera, boat, car]" but many seem to use it like I do-for keeping their loved ones updated on their life. My advice would be that FB has a very easy to use IGNORE button... the ones that irk you, if you aren't comfortable 'defriending' them, just put them on complete ignore... you won't see their status changes, pictures, or anything.

I hope you feel better soon... a quote I've always loved is "Bloom where you are planted".... Make your own happiness happen.

 

[horsejody]

People posting on facebook are only bragging. It's like the guy that wins $100 at a casino one night. He'll brag for weeks about what a winner he is because of that one win, but he will never talk about the 20 times he went to the same casino and lost $100. The person with a big house has a big mortgage, and the house will never be paid off. The person with the expensive vacation will be paying for the credit card debt it created for the next 10 years. The person with the perfect husband won't tell you that he is a mama's boy and his mother is a pain in the butt. The life many of these people post on facebook is their fantasy life, not their real life. Facebook is their escape from reality.

The secret to happiness is not having everything you want, but wanting everything you have.

 

[mamaKate]

Your brain runs on fuel just like your car. If you put quality fuel in- healthy food with adequate protein and EFA's, the B complex supplement mentioned earlier; and positive , uplifting thoughts - it will function normally. It helps to be sure you have an outlet to unconditionally give to other people. It excercises your compassion muscle. Also, see my signature. Feel better soon. Kate

 

[eggsforsale]

Ewesheep...

If you could see my "manicure". I love to get down and dirty in my garden and yard. I love old t-shirts, sweat on my brow while planting, pulling weeds, canning fruit, building a chicken coop, and putting up fences. Hearing the grandkids say, "Grandma, can I go see the chickens?" Life's simple pleasures are the best. That's where my sanity comes from....simplicity, self reliance, love of family. Yes there are weeds in my garden! Bugs eating the vegies! Dirt tracked in the house. But "There is a miracle in the dirt". I try to spend my time...finding the miracle...whether in the garden or in my life.
Some days it's tough but it is a tough world out there. You have to find what works for you...

 

[luvarabhorses]

I spent a lot of time with two Grandparents who were raised in the depression. They taught me the wonder of taking a piece of say crappy discarded furniture and turning it into a work of art.
I have a friend who moved down here with me, who is a good friend, that is seriously in debt. She was showing me her $5K bedroom suit with pride. When we got to my house tour, I found myself saying over and over, can you believe I pulled this out of a dumpster?- with equal pride.
I think you need to totally rework your brain. I never really thought about whether I loved or hated a job. I thought about it paying the bills and allowing me enough money to pay for my interests. I admit horses are an expensive interest and I don't recommend them to anyone with money issues, but I also garden, photograph wildlife, read, cook. make soap, ice cream and yogurt, milk my dairy goat.
I actually wound up with a lot of people at my former job being extremely jealous of me because I was happpy (despite my outward admission of taking antidepressants). Effexor is definitely a strong component in my ability to enjoy life btw.

 

[Ducklove334]

I've been like that lately too, but it doesn't help that I'm bi-polar and off my meds

just so you know, we've got 6 dogs, 3 inside, 3 outside, upwards of 12 or 13 cats, 3 in, the rest out, I've got about 20ish ducks right now, and god know HOW many chickens + chicks


and I pretty much have to do it ALL when it comes to the outside animals, I am pretty much up from 7am, clear through the day, feeding this, watering this, breaking up those darn drake ducks when they get into it. blah blah blah


I LOVE all the critters to death, but i've been feeling lately like enough is enough.

the chickens especially are SUPPOSED to be my MIL's, she wanted all of them, but who gets up in the mornings most of the time and lets them out of the coop into the run?, who makes sure they've got fresh water, food?, who collects eggs so we don't have every darned hen in that pen broody?, ME


see where I'm getting at?


point is, we all have days,week,months like that.