mad as a wet hen and needing to vent

[Haviris]

This is not a 'secret rule', she flat out told them she'd like to have the goat if they sold, instead they chose to take it to a sale. I don't expect special favors, or a return when I do things for others, but I do expect to get the same treatment as I would give them. They could have asked what ever price they wanted, then it would depend on how badly she wanted it.

And I'd probably hold a grudge. It's not like they had another buyer offering more or who expressed interest before her.

 

[tnchickenut]

At first I thought these were just "some people" who bought the goats.... but to find out they are friends/aquaintences.... YES I WOULD BE MAD! Heck, I'd bless them out!

I'm sorry for you. I have been in simular situations... watching something you cared for that you THOUGHT you were giving to a person(s) that would care for it and give you the call if things got too hard for them or whatever. It's hard because you never stop truely caring for that animal.

I'm sorry. They suck.

 

[chickenzoo]

I think i would have talked to them and find out why they didn't offer you to buy them first. There are a lot of what if's...... so I would at least confront them and find out why, otherwise you are the one that harbors the resentment.

 

[goatgirl4008]

I did try to call them today. I'm over the knee jerk reaction of being really peeved. Now I would just like to know why they didn't let me know that was the thing that got me most. I wasn't prepared to see him in that situation. Even a phone call on the way in. At least I would have known and then been prepared to do something. If I would have been giving the chance I would have made them the offer and they could of taken it or left it. I sold this family nice goats way below market value to help them get started. I answered all their questions the best I could. I halled goats for them. I treated them what I always thought was fair and now its like I'm not good enough for them. I just feel kind of betrayed. I don't even know what to say anymore. When I do things for people I don't expect things in return I just want to be treated with a little respect. And I will still go outta my way to help people we all ride this big roller coaster of life and we all need to hang on cause there may be some rather low valleys but we need to stay on the course and climb that next big hill. Thanks again for letting me ramble on.

 

[goatgirl4008]

I did try to call them today. I'm over the knee jerk reaction of being really peeved. Now I would just like to know why they didn't let me know that was the thing that got me most. I wasn't prepared to see him in that situation. Even a phone call on the way in. At least I would have known and then been prepared to do something. If I would have been giving the chance I would have made them the offer and they could of taken it or left it. I sold this family nice goats way below market value to help them get started. I answered all their questions the best I could. I halled goats for them. I treated them what I always thought was fair and now its like I'm not good enough for them. I just feel kind of betrayed. I don't even know what to say anymore. When I do things for people I don't expect things in return I just want to be treated with a little respect. And I will still go outta my way to help people we all ride this big roller coaster of life and we all need to hang on cause there may be some rather low valleys but we need to stay on the course and climb that next big hill. Thanks again for letting me ramble on.

 

[ScaredOfShadows]

I've been in the same situation as you except with cats or dogs...rehome cats and dogs that I picked up off the road (kittens and pups usually) or took in for someone else and then vetted them and usually rehomed them for nothing or for 30$ depending on age and if I'd had them fixed or not... I have made sure people had my cell # which hasn't changed in 5 years and let them know that under any circumstance I would take a dog or cat back if for whatever reason they couldn't care for them any longer... Found out a couple months ago my absolute favorite cat I rehomed last year to someone who begged me to adopt her from me (I was planning to keep myself but wound up giving her to a 'sibling of a friend' as she'd never had a cat and loved Ghost (siamese) so much) so I gave in and let her take Ghost home...Told her under no uncertain terms that if things didn't work out that she needed to contact me and I would either take her back or find someone else to rehome her to. But my friend (girl who adopted Ghost's sister ) called me one day upset and said "Jessy look Melissa just told me she gave Ghost away to someone on craigslist yesterday" to say I was peeved and very upset was an understatement. Not only did she 1. not call me she 2. rehomed this cat to someone she didn't know through craigslist for the money cause I found the craigslist posting and she rehomed the cat for 100$ when she got the cat from me for free fully vetted and spayed.
It wasn't like she couldn't contact me - she knew her sister had my contact information and she knew where I lived so could have contacted me. I called the girl up and asked what her issue was and why she didn't contact me about the cat and she goes "I figured its been a year you wouldn't want the cat back so I knew I could easily find someone to take her" well long story short I chewed her our and told her she was never welcome in my home again and never to call me about animal information and help because I know she didn't contact me because she wanted the money (which she didn't need - just wanted) and was incosiderate and lied to me. I do not feel bad about it because the animal was one I thought I was sending to a reliable owner and home and at the least I wanted the courtesy of being informed she no longer could keep the cat and given the option of 1. taking the cat myself, or 2. rehoming the cat myself to a home I KNEW wanted her for more than just being a siamese. UGH. people disgust me sometimes.

Goat - I don't blame you one bit. Especially if these people were supposed to be 'friends' or 'neighbors' and they acted as anything but. I say contact them and ask about the situation but let them know under no uncertain terms you don't plan to sell another animal to them.

 

[2cool4you]

You could always write up a buyers contract that once the animal is sold to the person if for any reason they decide they don't want the animal they have to return it to you or they have to give you first rights to buy it back. A lot of horse breeders are doing that now because too many good horses are ending up at the kill buyers. If they sell your goat without first offering the goat back they are in violation of the contract and can't sell it to anyone else without you having the right to take them to court over it.

 

[Beekissed]

I like the Secret Rule theory and I find this to be true about a lot of people who do you a "favor".

I'd say, once you give or sell a goat or any animal, that animal is no longer yours to dictate. Its no longer in your hands and people have a right to dispose of it as they see fit. Who knows their reasoning? You could ask. That would be a good place to start....asking sincerely if there was a reason they didn't call when they knew you were interested in buying the animal back. A sure sale is better than a maybe at auction...so it could be they have a reason that is good to them?

 

[alicefelldown]

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Perhaps it slipped their mind that you would take it back? You really should find out why they didn't offer it back to you (which they were under no obligation to do so) before burning bridges.

Or this - a good plan for the future:
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[Haviris]

I'm still not understanding what was a secret? She told them she was interested in the goat if it was sold, and I would be peeved if this was a goat I had no connection to, just one I was interested in buying. No they aren't obligated to sell the goat to her, it's their goat to do with as they please, but she's also not obligated not to be irritated about it, or to stay friends.

The only reason I can think that would make me not want to sell to a friend (or family member) is if I didn't think they took proper care of their current (or past) animals, but it sounds like she was pretty heavily involved in getting them their start, so it doesn't seem likely that they would have a problem w/ her animal care, of course I don't know that for sure.