First of all, thanks for "listening" to me vent. I don't really post on here, I just lurk. But today I feel completely defeated as a parent. A complete and utter failure. Oy, have you ever felt like you failed your kid? Like it's your fault they have struggled for so long because of some misplaced pride, like people would think less of you for having a child with issues? Because that's how I feel right now... My son (who's 8 yrs old) has struggled in school since kindergarten. He won't sit still, is constantly talking, getting in trouble, not finishing assignments, you name it, he does it. He tries so hard to pay attention in class, listen and follow directions but it just seems like he can't! He goes to a year round charter school. This week alone he has been on red 3 times, yellow once and green once. It's only the 2nd week of school and he has only been on green 3 times. I think the longest amount of time he has stayed on green since kindergarten is 2, maybe 3 weeks. SINCE KINDERGARTEN!!!! The other side of that is, if it's something he really enjoys, I have no problems getting him to focus and pay attention. I'm at my wits end. I called my mom crying because I don't want him to be labeled as "AD/HD", but then again, if he is, I'm going to feel terrible for just thinking it was him being a boy for the past 3 years. I'm going to the school on Monday to see if I can get an appointment ASAP with the counselor and his teacher. Maybe they'll have some input on this. Then, if they suggest it, I'll make an appointment with his doc. Please tell me I'm not horrible for not doing this sooner...I thought he would get better. That he would all of a sudden just change. Ugh.