Megan's Law, rant about the system

[redhen]

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Well, the simplest route is to educate your children to simply ignore or walk away from this man and let you know he talked/approached them. As much as I think his 'tastes' are despicable, it is the parent's responsibility to educate their children about the dangers of this world.

Nothing makes me shake my head any harder then situations like this. Is the man potentially dangerous? Sure. But are you certain he means harm? Or is he just being a decent neighbor? We all did something in our lives we aren't proud of. Just be thankful your sins aren't registered for everyone to peruse.

As I am writing this I am getting ready for the arrival of my first child this year. So please keep that in mind when replying.

hi..i VERY much agree with everything you said!...but..my concern is...this man KNOWS what he is allowed to do and NOT allowed to do...per his extensive offender therapy AND the SORB AND his parole restrictions.(TO NOT HAVE ANY INTERACTIONS WITH CHILDREN..and yes...waving at them IS a way to TRY to interact with them....)...and, yet..he is waveing at children...trust me..this IS a big NO-NO....and he knows it..so..that is telling me...he IS not reformed....and there IS a very high likely hood that he will re-offend...now..he may not try to get at her kids...because they live to close...(sex offenders are VERY smart.....)but...by him waveing at them is almost a "flaunt" at them...know what i mean?....which means there is NO remorse for his past...again...not all of them will re-offend...(i honestly believe this...)...BUT...the ones that are still waving at children.....well...i see a big problem with it......but..i DO know what you mean about judging people for past crimes.....BUT...to me this guy has no remorse..and is not trying to get better if he is still waving at little boys.... and congrats on the baby!..

..., Peace, Wendy

 

[redhen]

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i wouldnt let him see you with the camera....first off..i'm not sure if it is legal...and you dont want THAT hassle...second...it will only give him a warning to be MORE careful...know what i mean?....BUT..i STILL would video him if he waves at the kids...for evidence when you call the SORB...but..do not let him see you with the video camera...or maybe thats illegal also...

...i dont know...

...i bet the SORB will be able to tell you whats legal and whats not for videoing them and such...good luck!

 

[ksacres]

At the risk of getting yelled at by nearly everyone on this thread,

he's OUT, right? And registered. That means he's paid his debt to society. He's supposed to get a second chance. Come on guys, this is AMERICA. Maybe he doesn't realize you know what he did. If you didn't, wouldn't it look funny if he *didn't* wave? Maybe he's trying to start over and be part of "normal" society. I say give the guy a break. I'm sure he paid his debt over and over again in prison.

He waved at your kids. Come on.

As Tomcio said, be glad all YOUR sins are recorded as a matter of public record.

 

[Chicken Woman]

Oh you are wrong ! Never take a chance with your kids ! I don't care if he has paid the price as far as IM concerned unless he is locked up forever he continues to be a threat to all children. That is why they are not allowed ANY contact with children.
I don't see how recording him could be illigal from your own property.

 

[tomcio]

redhen, I respect your opinion, but to draw such a straight line from you have done it once you'll do it again is not so simple.

I ate Maronite once. I can tell you for sure I won't do it again

To simply 'believe' he will do one thing or another is your prerogative, but it should not be taken as anything but a 'belief'. Why should he be punished for your thoughts? Granted, I know nothing of his situation, but why do you suggest he's on parole? And if he has served his time, has he not paid his debt to society?

I have been observing differing cultures and legal systems, having grown up in communist state and now living in Canada. With US being such a close neighbor, I tend to pay attention to your legal happenings. However, for the life of me, I cannot understand your unfounded need for fear and it's ability to be a driving force in your legislature. Yes, some people do harm, some steal, some others live exemplary lives. But yet you find reasons to fear each group; the ones that harm MUST do so again, it's in their nature, the ones that steal MUST steal again, and well, the ones that look 'clean' on the outside, well, they must have dirty secrets. Let it all be. Watch out for your own; don't pretend to do so by trying to change, or worse restrict, others.

I could tell you some gruesome stories from my childhood, ones about being chased with butcher knives, drunks lurking in dark alleys, muggings, tanks stationed outside apartment buildings. All things that I have witnessed first hand. Yet, every day my parents let me out by myself, without adult supervision to go to school, do groceries, play. And here is the shocker: I was allowed to do all this as early as grade 1! Why? Because I have been taught right from wrong, boundaries and self-awareness. I not only lived through it without harm, but became a better adult for it.

The solution to 'problems' like this one is simple: Teach your children correct values and self-awareness. The more you try to 'protect' them the more you harm their ability to handle a situation where they could be harmed!

As for the neighbor;- to me any action on suggested here where authorities are involved is akin to 16th century witch hunts. But it's easier to repeat history than to learn from it.

Cheers,

Tom

 

[ksacres]

Because prison is so much worse than being on "the outside"? I don't even have cable tv.

And because I want my tax dollars to support this?

No thanks.

I get that parents are protective of their kids. What I don't get is how this man, that has atoned for his sins, that is trying to reenter society, that may or may very well not be a threat to anyone, is being discouraged from becomming a valued member of the community. What are you teaching your kids? That once you make a mistake, you can never be forgiven? Yep, that's the America I want to be an active part of. Why don't we just shoot him? A jury of his PEERS (that's people like you and me) decided what his punishment should be. He served (and survived) his time. It was a sting operation, nothing actually happened to a child.

Furthermore, IF he is harboring evil thoughts, it's a lot easier to follow through with them in seclusion than it is with neighbors dropping by for visiting hours, talking to him at the supermarket, etc.

 

[sara]

I've asked for this thread to be locked. Fighting over weather or not this guy is better was not my intention. I just want my kids safe, any mom would.

 

[redhen]

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thats very true!...you never give them a chance..you dont have to hate them..and bother them..BUT..ALWAYS be very aware of them...and LOL...being out and registered is a joke..honest..its NOT about doing his time in prision...its a MENTAL sickness(honest)...and its not just cured by prision time...you have to have MANY years of therapy..AND you have to WANT the therapy to work..not just go through the motions of it..like MANY do...so..please...give him no breaks...no chance...and again i will say...he KNOWS about not being allowed to have ANY interactions with children...and yes..waving at them is TRYING to interact with them....how exactly do you think offenders start to molest a child?...its called "Grooming"..."Hi johnny!...what ya got for mail today?"....next day..."Hi johnny....want a piece of bubble gum?"...."wheres your mom at johnny?"....it does start off in slow increments..until he gets the child alone some how...some way....unless he just grabs kidnappes them....but...this guy was going to MEET a boy in new york...which tells me..he had been "grooming"...so..THIS guy IS capable of trying it with her children...and it starts with a innocent wave sometimes....a wave that he KNOWS he isnt supposed to be doing to children....

 

[sara]

 

[DuckLady]

Closed at the request of the OP.