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X2 !lol. welcome to the club.
Lady, sounds like you had a very depressing time - I'm sorry. I don't think that hate is dying out so much as being replaced by a different kind. The vitriol directed at me recently from some "Christians" (I'm atheist) showed me that hate is still rampant. I ignore it.Yeah, so DH’s 92 year old grandfather erupted at the dinner table after some hapless relative uttered a political trigger word that I will not repeat.<<<<<<<<<.While I don’t wish death on this man who can be a loving person (or anyone) it is refreshing to know that his brand of hate is dying out with the older generations and being replaced by a greater tolerance that while not perfect is promising and gives me hope.
So there was that. And then my own family. There were no arguments or hate speech but I was criticized for being… well, me. They forget and possibly can’t relate to the fact that I am a stay-at-home mom. All of the women in my family have careers. I’m the exception and it makes it really hard, especially when they start dishing out advice that does not suit my situation. I hate to say that they don’t understand because it sounds juvenile but I really don’t think they can understand. Unlike them, I don’t have coworkers and friends or a community that I’m a part of every day or most days or even some days. I struggle every day to be a part of society, to make a difference like they are and not fall into the soap opera and bonbon stigma. Even as an intense introvert, I have to have *some* contact with the outside world, to be a part of *something* just to feel alive. So things like social networking on the internet (including this forum) have become really important to me, giving me a sense of community, amongst other things, but I struggle with it because I can’t always or often be myself.
So long story short, my family gave me the why-can’t-you-just-share-happy-stuff?-treatment which is like saying “why can’t you just be normal like everyone else?” And coming from them, especially my mother, it really hurt. That’s not how she lives and that's not how she taught me to live either. I feel like I was just clubbed and dragged back into the cave. I deactivated my FB account again as a result of the criticism.
Lady, sounds like you had a very depressing time - I'm sorry. I don't think that hate is dying out so much as being replaced by a different kind. The vitriol directed at me recently from some "Christians" (I'm atheist) showed me that hate is still rampant. I ignore it.
And I think yo can be yourself. It's not easy sometimes. Like you , I am at home, and much of my socializing is on the internet. But it doesn't make you any less worthy, so don't let the words get to you. You have your life, and if it's one that you have chosen, then you have a right to it. They chose theirs, but they have no right to condemn you for yours. Speak your mind, it's why you have one!
I'm sorry you found the need to deactivate you FB account. Sounds to me like you are very stressed. Don't let "them" (any "thems") get to you. I don't know you, but from your posts I think you are a generous and good person. You are VALID. Sometimes it's much harder to stay at home than have a career. Find strength in the fact you are flying in the face of convention; just as once, a long time ago, someone said the world was round, not flat. It took a lot of courage then, but then he was right!
If you do, will you recommend me as your replacement? I am so tired of being unemployed.I am SOOO about to quit my job...
If you do, will you recommend me as your replacement? I am so tired of being unemployed.