mini-rant - I should be the first to be paid

[WingingIt]

Instead of making his other bills (whatever they are) the OPs responsibility, how about saying the Dad could have brought that up BEFORE he signed a contract stating otherwise? It's HIS fault, not the OPs. If he'd have said that he wanted to pay on the 15th, they'd have written things that way so she'd still be covered in court. If she willingly agrees to let him break the terms of the contract, the rest of her contract isn't enforcable, either.

If people are so willing to assume that he's living hand to mouth and needs every cent on certain times, why aren't they giving that same consideration to the OP? If they (the OP) do daycare for income, you can bet they ARE counting on that money to pay bills, it's not just for fun and to throw out the window. It's a job, you pay for services, that's the way it works. If you sign a contrct, you signed it. When it's time to renew it, they can write it differently.

That Dad could just as easily rearrange how he writes his check to still account for that money coming out on the 15th on his end....he can simply write a check on the 15th of the month and record it as being for daycare (and subtract that out of available funds) and give it to her on the 1st. It's called a budget, heck, he can even find a free program online to track all of his bills and due dates, sounds like maybe he could use that. It doesn't sound like he's having trouble paying his bills in general, just in paying them all at certain times and a budget would easily solve that for him by showing that some money is set aside from the 1st/15th paycheck to pay XXX bill. As an aside, the easiest bill payment date to move is probably a credit card. I've been asked every time I've called to change an address or whatever if my due date still works for me and if it doesn't, they'll be happy to move it for me.

I have to agree with the person who said having two people paying for one child sounds like trouble coming. It does to me, too.

 

[redhen]

Honestly..if i was the OP.. and it was a hassle to me i just would not take the kid...

Just tell the parents that they need to find another daycare provider..

 

[DuckLady]

IF the father in a bind, the maybe Mom can spot him.

Their problems are not yours.

Tell mom (or whoever you talked to) that payment is due and you dont' care who pays it. Or they can take time off work to find another caregiver.
Which is cheaper?

Asking a service provider to wait for payment is not right or fair. I can see if they were a long time, established customer who needs a hand, then providing that hand because you know they are reliable is one thing.

Coming in new and asking financial favors before the professional trust is fully established is quite another.

 

[elijahboy]

exactley.... quit watching the kid and there will be no late payments or rearranged payments


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[Boyd]

what everyone above me said!

 

[patnjess]

I know I said I wouldn't come back, but I calmed down and thinking more rationale.

But he's not asking not to pay just a different pay date right?

also I don't know what his financial statement is, and does she? Him living in a ritzy apartment in the big city, has anyone seen it or no why he is there?
It really doesn't matter.

but I know its been said, how do we know he doesn't have the money, and you have to pay for good quality care.

But how well do they really know her, and know its quality care.
I really have no idea, and I promise I'm not saying she is not quality care. But how do they know? I mean there sounds like there is resentment already how do we know he is really been taken care of great and objectivly? hmmmmmmm

I know I have had my kids in great homedaycares (that is what I prefer when I have had to use them) then I have had them in great looking care, and they forgot to feed my infant.

But I think it would be in both parties intrest to find other care.

I'm not really a nasty person, I hope it doesn't come off that way...

 

[patnjess]

Oh and to the poster that said something about being glad that I can provide nice things for my kids.

I try. I have a nice, warm comfy home.

their basic needs are met, and they have love....they wear hand me downs, and consignment clothes, and their parents go without. People think that just because my husband has a great job and makes really good money, that we should have more, but looks are decieving and know one really nows what the whole picture is.

 

[Wifezilla]

If you can't afford to pay someone to watch your kid, here is a radical idea. RAISE IT YOURSELF!
No one is obligated to provide you with day care.
No one is obligated to rearrange a contract for you. If they do, fine, but if they say no, not the contractor's problem.

Divorce is expensive. You will have a lot more money in your pocket if create a stable home, learn how to get along with people, choose your partner wisely, and generally grow the heck up.

 

[HarlansHollowFarms]

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Couldn't he do this with his rent? I would be less inclined to expect this if he were living in a basement suite that helps pay the mortgage for someone's home, but he lives in an apartment complex in a very trendy (read expensive) part of town.

In my experience, there is much more red tape involve with changing an apartment lease then with a child care provider. If you still get the money before you provide your service, what difference does it make on which date you receive your payments. If these folks are going through a divorce, it is a real probability they both need to rearrange payment scheduales, and yours may not be the only one.
Also, it make no difference if this man lives in a trendy apartment in the ritzy part of town as long as you are receiving your fees up front.

 

[PineappleMama]

Banks around here... you can't check because that would be giving private info to outsiders...

And many won't let you cash the check with them unless you have an account, and/or several forms of ID... SS card and DL do not count (stupid BoA)

So, basically you have to deposit it via your bank and just hope it goes through... and that if it doesn't your bank isn't one of the ones that fines YOU if someone else's check bounces.

Meh, I hate most banks... USAA is ours and has been a welcome change from the horrific practices I've seen.

I agree, your kids are supposed to be your most valued 'asset'... why would you want half paid care?