Moral dilemma-UPDATE!!!

[Bizzybirdy]

Lifetime chicken lover wrote:
Thanks for the support. I wanted to tell her the truth, but my mom insisted that I shouldn't, that blissfully ignorant is better than such terrible news. I had intended to write his story accurately and make him out to be the little hero that he was. And tell her that his last days were spent happily free-ranging with his flock, and that his flock loved him and miss him terribly.

I'd tell her exactly this. And then I'd thank her for giving me a wonderful little rooster that did his duty right up to the end and saved your hens.

Yes, I would tell her along with how much you and the hens loved him and how brave he was (you needn't go into any gorey details)....and send any photos you have of him. She will not trust you again if you lie to her.​

 

[Imp]

I think you should listen to your mother. I don't see any good in hurting the roos former owner. Sounds like she's a stranger off of craigslist.

Imp- It's not a moral dilemma, it's a white lie.

 

[fl_deb]

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Yes, I would tell her along with how much you and the hens loved him and how brave he was (you needn't go into any gorey details)....and send any photos you have of him. She will not trust you again if you lie to her.

white lies are still lies and secrets never end well. You could even do a little memmorial to him on your BYC page and give the former owner the info to find it.

so sorry for your loss

 

[Stonerowfarm]

I agree with telling her the truth. This isn't a child but an adult. Nothing needs to be sugar coated. She has animals so she know that unfortunately there are losses. He was a good roo, doing what he was bred to do - protecting his ladies. She should know that rather than run from trouble he confronted it and tried to save his flock. Any loss is hard to deal with, but I would rather lose a roo to a predator than have him run away from trouble, lose my flock and have him lost in the process.

 

[MMPoultryFarms]

The Problem with lieing once is you always have to remember the lies you tell. I would be completely Honest. Correct me if i am wrong but I bet you exitedly told her how happy he was gonna be free ranging with your girls. He did just that He loved them so much that he died for them, He sacrificed His life to save his love ones. (I know its No comparrison to a chicken to most) But it happens everyday now in these wars we have going on mother's are called daily with the bad news of there children Being killed in one form or another. If i was that parent I would rather have my kids die Protecting there glory. Then Just not know. Least it gives her a peaceful memory Of how good of a rooster she really had. A war story so to speak, Something to admire and be proud of. (she might have loved it like her own kid) thats just my 2 cents

 

[33yardbirds]

The TRUTH. Hard to hear but best in the long run.

 

[Dora'smom]

I think you need to tell her the truth as you described it in your post. How he defended his ladies, and gave his life for them, etc. She probably knew that he was free-ranging and having a good life. There are perils that naturally come with that life. He was a good, honorable and heroic roo.
She will be sad, but I'll bet that she will be grateful to be told the truth. Recognition with a little memorial is a great idea, if you are able to do it.
Telling lies is always bad business.

 

[The Tinman]

I would tell the truth. At least he had it good with you. It was either find a good home or camp for wayward roos. If she gave the roo to someone else he might of ended up dinner. It is like you said he died doing what Roos do and on his terms.

 

[OrloffTom]

I'm sorry for your loss

. It sounds like he was a brave one. I would just be honest with them and let them know what happened.

 

[jennh]

JMHO, but honesty is always the best policy. Remember, "your sins will surely find you out".

Jen