my 3 year old is much darker than the rest of us..

[chickensducks&agoose]

My husband has moderately dark skin, especially in the summer. His great grandmother supposedly was from India or something. Anyway, my 2 older kids are regular, white kids, and my third, is not. People keep thinking she's adopted, and commenting on her skin. Sometimes I get that sneaky wink, hinting that maybe i cheated on my husband with someone much darker... It's driving me nuts! People will literally come up to me on the street, and say 'what country is she from?' or ' how long did it take you to get through the adoption process?' or " oh, have you remarried?' or, my favorite: ' wow, she's really dark, where'd you get her?' so should I make up a tee-shirt? or what? What if she WAS adopted, or I HAD cheated on my DH, or something, I would be so, SO hurt by comments then, instead of just super annoyed... and I worry about how she'll handle things once she's old enough to understand... and just to be clear, she is significantly darker than my husband, and has jet black eyes, which just make her look more foreign...

 

[hearthnsoul]

People can be so distasteful, I would just respond by saying I know isn't her skin lovely, I'd kill for such color

my oldest looks like my husband, so very spanish looking, the rest took the irish of me, so I can relate. I once picked her up at girl scouts with my husband in tow and the scout leader actually looked at him, then her and said OH,..then lowered her voice and said we always wondered if she had been adopted. Ignorant!

 

[patnjess]

hhhmmmmm do you have pics? I would just ignore don't want to draw attention to it for daughter's sake. I'm darker then most of my family, my father's from Puerto rico, my mother is white. Mut my father has dark eyes and hair and light skin, as his mother was a fair red headed PR.
So I'm darker then both parents and have features that look more like my grandfather. I will say it wasn't so much of an issue.

 

[patnjess]

i would like to add, my husband is "white" and darker then me. don't know where his colorcame from

 

[jerseygirl1]

I would NEVER say those things to someone I don't know, let alone someone I do know

 

[angels4]

I would simply respond...."Please don't think I am rude for NOT answering your question, and I won't think you are rude for asking".

 

[jerseygirl1]

Quote:
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Miss Red]

I come from a family of russians/germans. As you can see in my Avatar I am probably the whitest person, with the reddest hair. My mother has dark, dark skin and brown hair and my father has olive skin and white hair. My own grandparents wouldnt accept me for the longest time because of my red hair. Turns out, on my mothers side there's som Czechs! I know the Polish helped, too, but most of them are dark headed as well.

I'm just the recessive baby of the group. I stand out at family reunions, I just learned to get past it and move on. I understand where you're coming from completely.

 

[wildorchid053]

my sisters kids are, one looks like the american indian from her dads side.. dark skin.. black hair and black eyes.. the other daughter is blonde and blue eyed.. like her grandma.. i am red head total freckles all over and my brothers are black hair and black eyes and not a single freckle.. ...like my dad.. i am the only red head for 3 generations.. so that gene can pop up any time.. i wouldn't worry about it. my grandaughter has the freckles like me but not my kids

 

[Backyard_Chicken_rancher]

First off allow me to start by saying People can be cruel now on tho the child I child will not be any darker then the darst parent or lighter then the lightest parent I should know I have a drop of Native American blood in me and my 2 brothers but I ended up with all of the looks and skin tone the Got pure bred white skin I alwasy thought it was funny as a child growing up because I would get so dark in the summer and my brothers would burn to the point they had to stay out of the sun most of the summer now as adults I see how weird it must have looked when we were children.

Now when people come up to you that don't know you just tell them I got her from the Octomom yeah she said she didn't want anymore kids so I took her or say I borrowed her from Anglina Jollie to see if I would want to adopt another child...

For the one's who ask you Where did you get her just tell them down on _____________ street if you hurry I bet you can get one to they still have a ____________ child left and it's a boy.

For the one's who asked how long did it take to adopt just look around (as if your looking for someone) and whisper not very long at all I just snatched her from some woman in the hospital while she was sleeping but maybe I should have grab the white baby instead what do you think?

As long as you and your Husband, close friends and family know then why does it matter what other people think?
As for your daughter just be sure that she knows the family history and that she knows she is darker toned because of Grandma ____
this way she will not wonder why she is different when the kids make fun of her which they will belive me.

I hope this will help you out in some way

Good Luck to you and your family