My brother, and others, forgot my birthday,,, again

We blow off birthdays in my family too, they dont mean much to any of us, maybe just to much other stuff to remember anymore?? I'm not sure why, we don't remember anniversaries or anything like that either.
 
My brother and sister in law used to go all out for their kids birthdays, especially the first one, then not so much for the 2nd, but the 3rd was the girl and OMG you'd think they were celebrating the Queen's second coming! But then the newness wore off and she couldn't figure out why all the fun stopped. Now she's going to be 17, she didn't get a Quincenera, or a Sweet 16, and she'd been promised one or the other. I'm going to make her 17th special because it's her last "kid" birthday, before she comes into her own.
Why do we spend so much time when they are young making a big deal out of, giving them these high expectations, then just kind of forget it suddenly.
My son and celebrate in small but fun way every year, but we would never forget each other.
 
DH's family is different about birthdays. They all love each other, they just don't track each other's birthdays. Birthdays for them are a time to reflect on their year and on the future, and they don't seem to need the big hooplah. They do always call around each others' birthday and wish a happy birthday, but not always on the day itself. It took some getting used to on my part.

In my family it's an unwritten rule that everyone must call on each other's birthday. Of course, we are all very close and more than a little chatty as well, so we end up on the phone for over an hour. So, that has meant that on my birthday I am on the phone for hours. To be honest, I would prefer it was spread out over a week. I don't usually call my brother on his day, generally it is on the next day, because I know with his social life that he will undoubtedly be taken out and fussed over by his friends on his birthday.

I will say that last week I had a friend over to celebrate her birthday. I put out nice linens on the table in the garden and made her a nice lunch (complete with chocolate mousse). It meant so much to her, I had no idea. Now I know that I should do that for her more often She takes care of so many people and does so much for them, she needs it reciprocated. Just to have someone fuss over her for a change was huge. So, it seems that her birthday means more to her than mine does to me, and she needs that recognition. I am glad to give that to her. Honestly, after all of the years I have known her I didn't realize how much being doted on here and there means to her, I should have known.

Your friends/family know that you fuss over their birthdays, so it is obviously something you value. They in turn should make an effort to treat your birthday as you have treated theirs.

Happy Belated Birthday!
 
im sorry this happened to you as well on my 18th birthday just i didnt mention it to anyone i was like giving hints but no one took to them and yet my dad usually makes a cake for me every year on december 30th one of the last days of the year and he didnt so i just rented a hotel room since i was just 18 and my first time buying a pack of smokes and i ordered a pizza and i ate the whole thing and the next day went home and didnt say a word to them and happy late birthday to you aswell
 
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I use to send a card to everyone for everything, but when we started raising a little grandson, I just couldn't get it all done anymore, and to this day I feel really bad . . .but my kids always remember their dad's b.d and have a big BBQ for it and everything, but mine in Sept. might be gently remembered, but no cake or BBQ or anything . . . .I don't care about the BBQ, but gosh dang it I WANT CAKE AND ICE CREAM.
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Happy Belated Birthday to you
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My birthday was the 25th too... no one could forget mine cause I threw myself a big party (I turned 40 and DH wasn't going to do anything). I hadn't had a party since I was a kid and this was so much fun. I highly recommend throwing yourself a party then no one can forget
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Stephenie
 
Happy belated Birthday. I know exactly how you feel. My husband's sainted (note the sarcasm) mother died from cancer on my birthday. So every year we go to the cemetary in rememberance with whoever in the family is in town - they live all over the place. Not once is my birthday remarked upon. I gave up several years ago -- no longer sending the cards or making the calls. The $%&@ with them!!!
 
What is wrong with people now is that they seem to busy to remember anything. It takes a little effort to remember birthdays and aniv. and things and they are not willing to do it.

Our 25th. came and went and nothing was done for us. I was hurt and mad. Let one of my sons birthdays go without me driving 3 hours to take them out to dinner and I wouldn't hear from them for a while.

just had to vent too.
 
I think when we actually had to go to the store and buy a card, sign it and mail it, we remembered to do it more often. In these days of e-cards, text messages, etc, if our alarm fails to go off we can blame the darn computer, it forgot to tell me it was your birthday! Or "I swear I sent a card through Cheesy Birthday Cards online, let me see what happened" then you get the belated stupid naked guy doing a weenie dance card.
 

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