My 10 yo Dd has always been somewhat socially awkward. She has never made friends easily and when she does sometimes she gets overly clingy to them until she smothers them. Then they run and it breaks her heart making her even clingier the next time.
5th grade has been a horror. Last year she became very good friends with a new girl who seemed just as into her. We had tons of playdates, she slept over etc.... At summers end she was swearing that my DD was her best friend over.
Sometime over the last month or so she changed her mind. She began haning around with another girl and they started the whole giggling together and pointing at her. Then she would say things like, "I think we would be better off if we each had other friends." Pretty sophisticated talk for ten don't you think??
I saw them today at a festival at school. I smiled and waved and the girl gave me a totally dismissive hand flap. I said, "Oh, DD is over there." The girl looked at me in that look only snotty girls can give and said, "Whatever." I was really stunned. I am pretty sure her mother would kill her if she knew. Later I saw DD go up to them and the two girls give her that smirk head shake look and hold up a hand in her face. It was all I could do..... Y'know?
But, now she is handling it well at school only to come home and bully the daylights out of her little sister! She sang a song at her about how annoying she was and then locked her out of the house.
What do I do? clearly smacking the snot out of those girls in her class is out.
What else??
5th grade has been a horror. Last year she became very good friends with a new girl who seemed just as into her. We had tons of playdates, she slept over etc.... At summers end she was swearing that my DD was her best friend over.
Sometime over the last month or so she changed her mind. She began haning around with another girl and they started the whole giggling together and pointing at her. Then she would say things like, "I think we would be better off if we each had other friends." Pretty sophisticated talk for ten don't you think??
I saw them today at a festival at school. I smiled and waved and the girl gave me a totally dismissive hand flap. I said, "Oh, DD is over there." The girl looked at me in that look only snotty girls can give and said, "Whatever." I was really stunned. I am pretty sure her mother would kill her if she knew. Later I saw DD go up to them and the two girls give her that smirk head shake look and hold up a hand in her face. It was all I could do..... Y'know?
But, now she is handling it well at school only to come home and bully the daylights out of her little sister! She sang a song at her about how annoying she was and then locked her out of the house.
What do I do? clearly smacking the snot out of those girls in her class is out.