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[MamaChic21]

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OH NO, there are more people like her

. You never know we might be related

That's ok, I learn to live with it some how. I realize she can't change at this age. But she's getting worse over the years. I think because she's aloney. Whatever years left, I wish we were creating nicer memories then this. But, I guess I learn to cope with it

. I wish you some patience too hon, it ain't easy.

 

[MamaChic21]

Yay Chicks! :

It's gorgeous so far!! Hang in there. All the frustrations will eventually be distant memories.

I keep reminding myself that too lol. When all said and done, I can sit down with coffee in my hand and just watching them play, aaaah what a dream

 

[cackydoodledoo]

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OH NO, there are more people like her

. You never know we might be related

That's ok, I learn to live with it some how. I realize she can't change at this age. But she's getting worse over the years. I think because she's aloney. Whatever years left, I wish we were creating nicer memories then this. But, I guess I learn to cope with it

. I wish you some patience too hon, it ain't easy.

I wish it were easier too!! My mother and I are not even on speaking terms which in a weird way is kinda nice at times but my kids suffer for it because she refuses to call to see them. I don't feel it's my obligation to "force" them on her either. I lost my Dad almost 4 years ago and it kinda feels like I lost her too. It's sad to say but like you said you just deal with it.

Maybe we could trade moms for awhile!!!!!!!

 

[MamaChic21]

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I'm so sorry about your dad, my condolences. My mom isn't bad, she doesn't have bad intentions for anyone but the fact that she acts like she knows everything and everybody better than anyone, pisses me off. She would sit back and watch everyone and observe, then she will let you have it and it's usually me, lol. For an example, as a kid, I wanted to become all kinds of things, artist was one of them and I remember her telling me " what you think you're talented, you don't know nothing about drawing". I was only 10 years old !!! Other times, she will say "what are you stupid, what makes you think you can become a police officer". You know things like that. But now since she's done with that stage, she's attacking my parenthood, how I keep my house, what kind of a wife I am and etc. She will critisize my building skills then says, " I'm only thinking what's best for you and building isn't one of them, take a look at your hands, it's like men hands, you should be more like a lady" and such. That's the way she shows she cares, I guess ! It's hard dealing with people like that, especially when it's your parent (s). That is all the more reasons I want to finish these projects and show her what I'm able to do. But knowing her, she's come up with something to turn me down.
Are you sure you still want to trade

? Good luck hon and patience is the key to everything.

 

[cackydoodledoo]

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I'm so sorry about your dad, my condolences. My mom isn't bad, she doesn't have bad intentions for anyone but the fact that she acts like she knows everything and everybody better than anyone, pisses me off. She would sit back and watch everyone and observe, then she will let you have it and it's usually me, lol. For an example, as a kid, I wanted to become all kinds of things, artist was one of them and I remember her telling me " what you think you're talented, you don't know nothing about drawing". I was only 10 years old !!! Other times, she will say "what are you stupid, what makes you think you can become a police officer". You know things like that. But now since she's done with that stage, she's attacking my parenthood, how I keep my house, what kind of a wife I am and etc. She will critisize my building skills then says, " I'm only thinking what's best for you and building isn't one of them, take a look at your hands, it's like men hands, you should be more like a lady" and such. That's the way she shows she cares, I guess ! It's hard dealing with people like that, especially when it's your parent (s). That is all the more reasons I want to finish these projects and show her what I'm able to do. But knowing her, she's come up with something to turn me down.
Are you sure you still want to trade

? Good luck hon and patience is the key to everything.

My mom is more of the type to make snide remarks thinking she is being funny but it really hurts. Example: She used to pick up my kids and watch them after school. Granted I didn't pay her but I mowed her lawn, took care of any repairs she needed on house etc.... We are at my twin daughter's bday party and I am talking with someone about my kids and how they do a certain thing and my mom chimes in with "How would you know? You never have your kids?" Wow what a blow. She kept my kids for two hours a day so she had no right to even say that. It was really embarrasing too as all my friends etc... were right there. I don't care what other people think because my true friends know I am a good mom but it doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt. My mom makes comments like this continually until you just feel like a worthless piece of crap!! And she is ALWAYS the victim in any situation. She can never take responsibility for any of her actions. They are always a result of something I did!!!! Reasoning or talking to her is like trying to flog a dead horse!!

Thanks for the condolences! I miss my Dad as much today as I did the day he died!! I rest easy in the fact that I will see him again someday!!

 

[MamaChic21]

you're lucky, at least you loved your dad, I can't stand my dad. I have never seen a selfish person like him in my entire life. He has to be the most selfish person I have ever seen. First he has to be fed, he has to be taken care of first, he has to be comfortable and who cares about anyone else, well that anyone else is his kids, his family ! When I was 17 years old, he decided he wanted to be a religious man so he left my mom with me and said take care of her and he was gone ! He would come every other weekend. Me age 17 had to quit school and work 3 jobs to support myself and my mother until I got married. Not once did he ever ask me, how are you doing ? Even after I got married, I still took care of my mom but then she turned around and said "your brother took care of us for that many years". My jaw was wide open ! My mom favors her sons and her older daughter. I'm the youngest of 4. I never had friends really, weren't allowed to by my mom, but 1 day I had a co-worker (girl) come over and I had to go to the store so she stayed home. My mom asked my friend, "so what does my daughter tell you, did she tell you any of our secrets, how much do you know about us ?" What the, are we a CIA agent family that I don't know of ? My mom never till this day want me to have friends because she is affraid I would trust someone !
Some how, if she wasn't the way she was and dad the way he was, I wouldn't be the person I am today. They did hurt my feelings countless times but maybe that made me be stronger person. Insulting me,treating me like I'm not their daughter maybe be more independent and learned not to rely on people, I should only rely on myself. I'm trying to find the positive results

Hang in there girl, what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger, I'm suprise I'm not a rock by now lol.

 

[Minniechickmama]

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I know I really have no right to butt in, but since you did make this public. Tell your mother to go home. First, it is your family and you are not a child. She is critical and non-supportive of who you are or what you are trying to accomplish. It sounds like she is more work than help. If you need a babysitter, hire one who will not judge and berate you. I know that is harsh, but sometimes, you have to draw they line so your parents understand you are no longer in need of their constant telling what to do.

Second, do you know how to eat an elephant? One bite at a time. You are trying to do 10 things all at once. Prioritize and conquer one thing at a time. It does sound like you are getting close to done, but get what HAS to be done first. But then again, if you hire a babysitter and kick your mom to the curb on trying to run your show, then you won't have that pressure of April 7th coming. It is better to tackle one thing at a time and do each one well then running around after 10 things and doing them all only part way. I should know, I the master of overdoing and not tackling one thing at a time.

Good luck. You are doing great and it will pay off.

As for hubby, if he is a good guy, stroke his ego a bit, offer him some 'special' for his help, but withhold the 'special' if he acts like a jerk. Frankly, there again, your mother probably adds to those problems.

 

[kfchickenlady]

Yeah, stick up for yourself! I know it sounds much much easier from where we sit, but you deserve to be free of this crap (negativity, not the ppl, lol) in your life! And, in case you were unaware, you ARE a rock! Sad what parents can do to their children, good for you for seeing the positive outcome to your independent attitude! rock on!

 

[Minniechickmama]

Is your mother divorced?

 

[MamaChic21]

I just came back from my son's 1st speech therapist evaluation session. He's 3 he can't talk as he should be. I'm exhausted already but today is the day to make more trusses and put the roof on. My sister in-law brother still didn't come yet. He said he will but didn't answer my txt msg. I'll probably cut the plywood in pieces and put them up there myself. My husband thinks out 3 yr old son has a speech delay because I've been working on the coop and giving my attention to the chickens and ducks

. What is wrong with these people ? If I can't finish what I planned for today, then I will continue it when my little one is asleep during the day and no weekends. As far as a babysitter, my son won't stay with strangers. He's great with my niece but she goes to work and school. I got no one else that lives near by. Oh well, mom is leaving tomorrow night, have to sign my little son to school (to help him with his speech). Everything will be ok

. Off to work on the coop I go. Have a great day everyone