My ex died

[wegotchickens]

You grieve because at one time there was love, there were shared memories, and he was a significant part of your life.

I've been there. My ex committed suicide March 2009 and it hurt. It hurt because of the pain our daughters felt, and it hurt because there were 'stories' lost that no one knew but him. He was a butthead, and we parted on bad terms, but he was still a part of my history. There's a hole there and always will be. Does that make sense? Even if we never talked about those remembrances, there was someone else that knew them besides me.

 

[chickeypoo]

my mom and dad hadnt' been together in probably 25 years.. but they had a love/hate relationship.. she'd love to hate him.. but i think deep down.. she'd hated to love him.. ya know? she did love him to some extent in her own way.. and my dad still loved her.. but he didn't hide it like she did LMAO. anyway, yeah. when he passed, she went through a sort of sadness and it was hard on her.. I think if my ex b/f passed away.. (the one i had my oldest with) id probably have mixed emotions ya know? but most of our.. relationship wasn't great.

anyway, i think it's perfectly normal for you to be upset at his passing. I think when you are in a relationship with someone.. it takes a toll when you realize they are gone. when a coworker of mine passed away(and we hadn't worked together for a couple years) i was fairly upset. and when i found out a woman who babysat me passed away.. that made me upset too. I cared a lot for her. but hadnt' seen her in years. So, i also believe that different poeple feel differently about certain poeple passing away.

I am sorry you have to go through this. I lost my dad recently, and my gramma, and my hubby's gramma, and now this last thursday, a cousin. So, i have had more than a share.. but my thoughts are with you during this hard time.

 

[Dar]

sorry for the loss.

 

[User66184]

Im Sorry For Yur Loss

 

[bargain]

Will be praying for you. Bless you for your feelings and taking the time to remind us that "sometimes other opportunitieis to get it right with people" just do not come. Love, hugs and prayers to you. Nancy

 

[Steve_of_sandspoultry]

I have an ex and she is exactly that.......ex. We have no contact and that's fine with me

Steve

 

[HHandbasket]

Do you have children with this woman that you're not paying for or having any contact with? This man and I had a family together. I do not have a single high school memory (or any other memory during my formative teenage years) that he was not part of. We once shared a life.

I am not heartless enough to just cut out someone with whom I once shared a life and a future and with whom I created two beautiful children. I know there are people that do it, but I can't be one of them.

I have this thing about needing to be able to sleep with my conscience at night.

 

[HHandbasket]

BTW, I do have an ex with whom I have no contact and would probably scratch his eyes out if I ran into him, but I did not have children with him, and our "life together" was very, very short-lived.

 

[Steve_of_sandspoultry]

Quote:
No we did not and if I did I would be doing what is right - I'm not a deadbeat. Thank you

Steve

 

[kyeschicks]

I'm sorry for your loss

I also lost my friend last friday....this is going to be the worst Christmas ever