My husband is being a jerk!! >:(

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

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That a rent to own place......he will own it after so many weeks

For more money than it is worth.

 

[sadies chicks]

Geez, my DH just reloaded our Les Schwab account by $1,100 for his freaking race car!!

FOR TIRES!!!!!!

Needless to say .....I freaked the flip out. I had it all paid off.

This is me to my husband....

Therefore, good ol' wifey here gets whatever she wants

I control the financials anyways

and yes, I am closing the Les Schwab account once this is all taken care of.

 

[gritsar]

There's a difference between necessities and wants. Alot of people can't see the line between the two.

A refrigerator is a necessity. A flat screen TV (or any TV), a game console or "fancy" furniture are not.

Chickens can be a necessity, if you depend on them to provide a major portion of your diet.

I say get the game console paid off asap and trade it for some chickens. You can't eat Warcraft.

 

[Oregon Blues]

[[[......rent to own places are the only way we can get anything.....]]]]]

Not exactly.

If an X-box costs $300 new, and you have to pay $140 a month to rent one, then you do without for 2 months, put the $140 a month that you budgeted for rental fees into a savings account and simply pay cash. Or hey, just buy a used one for $75.

If you insist upon paying $1500 for every $300 toy that you get to the rent to own place, you will never be able to afford to buy anything. All your money is going down the toilet in interest payments that you don't have to sign up for in the first place.

Try adding up all you pay every month for interest and then think how your budget would look if none of your dollars went to pay interest. Look at how much money you'd have to spend on yourself instead of mailing it away.

On the chickens, I firmly believe that animals should not be added to the family unless all family members agree on the addition. That also applies to any expensive purchase. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership and partners discuss things, negotiate, reach agreements.

I also firmly believe that any partner that has no income and relies upon the other partner, should be figuring out a way to generate a little income of her (or his) own. That goes a long ways towards balancing the power structure.

 

[HeatherLynn]

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Yeah, my wife uses the old "It's easier to get forgivness than it is to get permission" thing. I think she learned it from redhen....

Just sayin'

Permission?? forgiveness? We were supposed to be asking for those? I just do stuff and tell him I love him too. No one ever mentioned permission or forgiveness. I suppose I could try one of those someday. Maybe. I could suprise him with one of them for our 25th anniversary or something.hmm

On a serious note. You guys need to talk through your finances. Once you are married there is no longer a yours and mine. It is all ours and we need to make smart decisions together. Thats really the key to the whole thing. He can't still think like a single guy.

 

[vanilla.exe]

I would never ever ever ever buy a gaming system from one of those places, such a rip off!!!! you end up paying double, sometimes even triple what it would cost to buy one out-right. Not only that, but often times you are paying for used merchandise. He can probably get a used xbox for around $150, maybe even less depending on where you look. Tell him to take that thing back, let you get your chickens, and then you can save together to buy him either a new or used system for a fraction of what you're paying.

 

[chickenzoo]

Marriage is a give n take relationship.................. My hubby gives..... and I ...take......

No, he has always handed over the finances to me, since we were dating, because he knows I'm good at it. Handling money,

 

[Orchid]

If your husband is so addicted to gaming that he goes through mood swings when he can't do it, and you are suffering financial hardship because of it, AND the two of you are "waging war" over gaming vs. chickens - I think you both need some serious help. It sounds like some major growing up needs to be done in this marriage. Just my opinion, and I don't mean it to offend you...I just can't imagine married people living this way.

And, yes, I am married, for just about fourteen years now.

 

[ChicksterJo]

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Im not working. Im going to college.

I must have misunderstood your post about the $7.50 per hour processing mail job. This is why I don't depend on my SO to buy me anything. That way I can have a say on what I buy. He also has a say in what he buys. We talk about it and then we prioritize what we *need* and what we *really* need first. So far it has worked. Like someone else said, neither of you is single anymore, so you should be thinking as a partnership especially when it comes to finances.

 

[TinyTotsSeramas]

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Im not working. Im going to college.

I must have misunderstood your post about the $7.50 per hour processing mail job. This is why I don't depend on my SO to buy me anything. That way I can have a say on what I buy. He also has a say in what he buys. We talk about it and then we prioritize what we *need* and what we *really* need first. So far it has worked. Like someone else said, neither of you is single anymore, so you should be thinking as a partnership especially when it comes to finances.

That was my job before I desided it didnt bring enough an I should go to college..