my husband left me

[pinkwindsong]

Its so hard right now to even think there will be a silver lining.. but there will be..

don't rush into leaving Your home. if you can make it financially stay.. there are so many other women out there that maybe they are the ones who lost their home and would dearly love to be a roommate to you and your farm. and then also to help with cost and upkeep.
as for your soon to be ex husband and his Trollope. just remember that Karma is real and they will get their come-up-ins,, they always do.

be brave, be confident and stay positive .. in your new and upcoming life..
join a support group that is positive not all hateful and negative and you will not only survive this you will be happy again.. and the happiness will come from within yourself . not from him..

blessed be )O(
Pink

 

[zzGypsy]

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WOW! You have it together!

well, some days...

that's what many many thousands of dollars of therapy and a bullheaded stubborn refusal to give up until you get it right will do for ya... I come frome pretty messed up territory, and I was a real mess in relationships (and out) for a long time. good news is I believe in my ability to learn and change, and I'm not afraid of hard work.

I figure if I can amoratize the education I got across more people, it cost less per lesson...

sometimes it's helpful to chat with someone who's a little in front of you on the same road. If my hard lessons help someone else learn a little easier, that cool.
but I've still got lessons to go...

 

[zzGypsy]

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x2 on this.

 

[Slinkytoys]

Take some small pleasure in the fact that if the other woman would do it with him----she'll do it to him. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Slinky

 

[gaited horse]

I'm so sorry to hear that

for you and

and a few other things that I can't post on here.

 

[manybirds]

If i where divorced i'de take advantage of the situation. i'de sit on the couch eating chunky monkey with alot of peanut butter. i'de turn the song 'self asteem' by the offspring on and i'de watch a bunch of eppisodes of my fav show! (ps try not to cry into the icecream)

 

[manybirds]

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wwwwoooooooo hhhhhhhoooooooo hope all goes well

 

[arabianequine]

I am a simular situation and it is terribly hard. I am so sorry nothing I can say will make it better. I do not understand these things my self.

 

[misterhandsome]

Well it's over. We saw a mediator yesterday to put together a separation agreement. If I can get approved for the mortgage he's going to sign the house over to me. There's no equity in it right now so I can't refinance and buy him out and we'd sell it at a loss right now. My fingers are crossed. Lucky little boy's mom is going to take over his SUV payments to get my name off that loan. We're selling the boat and will have about 10k debt associated with that. Both those changes should help with my mortgage application.

If I recall correctly his credit rating was so bad that he didn't help our mortgage application at all, so maybe it will be smooth sailing for me.

And my chickens are gone. I just couldn't keep them with all this going on. It's dark in the morning when I leave and I don't care to be trudging out there and then rushing home at the end of the day in the winter do lock them down.

This sucks so much.

He's given me heaps of random bulls**t about why he left, but at the end of the day it doesn't matter. He was completely leading me on by keeping in touch and wanting to talk. Turns out he's still seeing this person at work. He's made such self destructive decisions that I fear he's going to go head on into a brick wall one day and be in a major depression. He deserves it I suppose. I certainly don't.

But I know it's about him and not me. I'll rise above it, get this house in ship-shape and maybe put it on the market in the spring. Better time for selling then, but it's never easy to sell a country property.

Thanks all for caring.

 

[zzGypsy]

ah, so sorry it went this way.
sending you the most enormous hug ever.
speaking as one tough on the outside, squishy on the inside woman to another, if you were here, or I was there, I'd be buying you a nice cup of coffee and then helping you insulating the basement. the physical work of fixing things up helps as much as anything. that or going to the shooting range...
its sad, but some things can't be fixed. better to know now.
hang in there, we're here for you.