Again, thank you all so much for the support and validation. When there's nothing physical going on you kind of think you're crazy
. But your heart is screaming there's something wrong.
We're not in a great place with our church, we've pretty much decided to start going somewhere else. Our current pastor is our age and this is his first posting, and he's really screwed up advice to Don in the past. So, not sure that is a great way to go. There is an older couple in our church we totally love, he was a pastor most of his life and is now retired. We've gone to them before, maybe that would be an option. I just know he's not going to take things well no matter where it comes from.
Right now, I'm just thinking I've told him how I feel and we'll see how things ride out for a while. Blooie, I think you have some great points about finding a place holder. I know he really didn't do well while I was gone and was grateful he had someone to spend time with. Maybe he just needs to re-adjust his "habit".
He's going to have some contact with her the next two months at least. They're fellow students and school is starting back up tomorrow, until mid-Sept. She's also keeping our pigs (since our neighbor made enough of a fuss we had to move them) and they won't be butchered until right around then also. After that, I'm hoping he'll be so busy with the new job and studying for his RN that he just won't have time for her.
I'm not sure how to talk to the boys about this. I know they're not stupid, but at their ages I'm not sure if they understand the difference between a physical and emotional affair, and I don't want them thinking things are happening that aren't.
I've had some long talks with Jesus about this, trust me.
I'm trying not to have bad feelings about her part in all this, after all SHE never made anyone any promises. But I just can't imagine myself spending this much time with a married man, so it's hard not to put my values on her behavior.