My mom is dying *She's gone now **update*

[fldiver97]

I am so sorry!!! My thoughts are with you

 

[bargain]

I'm praying for you during this difficult time. I still miss my mother. I do pray that this time will be one which you will be able to be with her in the ultimate way and a symbol of strength and helpl...

May God bless you both.

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

Wow...your mom is the same age my mom would have been. My mom passed when she was 50.

We were assured by the doctors that she would beat it. 6 weeks later, we were all in the cancer ward of the hospital watching her take her last breaths.

The night before my mom passed, I talked to her on the phone. I had to keep calling her attention back to me on the phone. She would start to fall asleep and then would wake up and mutter random phrases. She was in so much pain.

All that you can do is remember her as the person she was, not the vessel that she is now. She will soon be beyond all this pain and torment. Sometimes, all you want to do is hold on to her the hardest you can, but in the end, you have to free her. My mom would not pass until we all told her that we would be fine and that we would see her again. 5 minutes after we all told her that, she passed away with all of us holding her arm and hands. She looked right at Dad and me, and then at my brother. She looked back and Dad and I and then it was like she wasn't seeing us anymore but was seeing something much much better. That was the only calming part of her passing that we received, knowing that she saw what she had lived for her entire life.

It is not going to make you feel any better and it will not lesson the pain that is going to come. If you need to talk or anything at all, please do not hesitate to contact me.

I will pray for you and your family. Do not worry, just because she is not there with you in body, does not mean she is abandoning you in spirit, she is just leaving the binding body in order to be closer to you.

 

[JessaLynn]

I know it's difficult but try not to dwell on those things.My two youngest never got the chance to know my dad because he was always in the hospital in quarantine (developed staph infection from ICU)
Anyhow...when you do have children they can still know who their grandma was by you.Telling them stories and showing them pictures of her.Passing traditions down to them.She may not be there physicly but she does live threw you.

 

[Cetawin]

there are no words to help...I hope her passing is peaceful and quick....I hope your healing is speedy.

Just keep talking to her and letting her know you love her ... when her time draws near, let her know you will be okay and it is okay to leave you.

 

[tonini3059]

Well she is there I can talk to her, but she just into snaps where she says weird things and get confused over the littlest thing like whether or not they are going to put her back on the oxygen, when it was already on then she was like Oh well what is it connected to umm the wall the same place it was yesterday Oh Oh ok. then she will be fine and talking normal then she says something weird like if my husband would get her asprin she could stay awake.

Thanks everyone I really need all the support I can get.

 

[1birdlady]

I am so sorry you are losing your Mom...our prayers are with you for strength and acceptance. She will soon be pain free, but there are really no words that can comfort such a loss.

 

[Countrywife]

May God Bless and keep you all, and Grant to you a measure of his peace, as there is no peace such as the Father's.

I am truly sorry that you have to go through this right now, but please remember, you are never alone. I am sure you are a daughter that your mother is proud of, and you will come through this with the grace and dignity that your mother taught you to have.

From the bottom of my heart, I wish your mother a safe journey, and for you the Peace of God to help your mother go.

Barbara

 

[tonini3059]

She was in alot of pain that is why we took her to the emergency room on Sunday night, but her pain is subsiding on its own. I stayed with her last night and she went 12 hrs with out any pain meds and said she was fine, when the day before she was getting dalaudid every hour.
It just sucks because 2 Doctors said she was on her way out, but the oncologist is still talking about her getting better and starting Chemo. The other 2 doctors I have known since I was little so I don't think they are sugar coating things like the oncologist is. I is giving my family false hopes. I don't need this especially my father, he is not taking this well at all. He and my mother met when they were 16 and married at 18 and have been together ever since, Sept 20th they were married 30 yrs. They were each others first loves..so so sad

 

[henryetta]

oh dear girl, im so sorry you are going through this. As the'mom' of a daughter who is my everything, i feel for the both of you. I would not want to leave my daughter yet, we too are so close. I pray for you for comfort of heart. I am reading a book called "More Alive Than Ever" or Always Karen by Jeanne Walker. It's written by a mom who lost her daughter at i think 20 years of age. I think you may find comfort in it being so close to your mom as you are. Im a bit choppy in my response here, im sorry about that, i really in some way, mostly prayer, would wish you some healing. You really may get some lift from that book though too. Wishing you strength and healing...