need advice on a relationship problem,,, update 3-27-11

[blueseal]

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no i dont have any bank statements i just give her cash and she pays the payment. but not for long.

 

[sgtmom52]

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Once you make your decision to end it, be prepared to have her beg you to stay as you are her "sugar daddy" right now and when you walk she will not be happy to lose the cash flow! This will be difficult especially if she tries to make you feel guilty.

 

[flyweed]

coming from another guy, I'd get out while you can. Cut loose, and start fresh. You got one life, and one go round in this world..why make yourself suffer, and worry and be upset. You don't need counseling to see it hasn't been working for 7 years. You deserve better, and someone who will treat you as an equal and like what you like and enjoy spending time with you.

As bobby mcferrin says: Don't worry, be happy!

I'd say cut loose, get out and make a fresh start, don't waste any more of your life on problems.

Dan

 

[blueseal]

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im 33 no kids of my own.

 

[jacyjones]

So - you are young enough and have no ties so get out of there and discover how good you can feel when you make a decision and see it through. Good luck.

 

[sfw2]

So you're still a young guy and you have a steady employment history. We already know you must be a decent guy (you like chickens, don't you?). When the time is right, you'll find the right person to share your life. Why settle for anything less.

Good luck!

 

[superchemicalgirl]

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I think you know exactly what you need to do, and it's hard. 2 years ago I ended my marriage, we had been together for 7 years before that. The first few years of it were ok, what made me stick around the rest of the time was probably low self esteem. The hardest part is making that first step to being independent again. She's already told you she doesn't want you around and doesn't let you touch her. What are you waiting for? You're worth more than that. I had to pump myself up in order to leave. My biggest helper was the thought: what would I tell myself in 10 years if I was still with this guy? I had the opportunity to go before I was boggled down with kids or it was harder to leave. I didn't need to be treated like crap. Think about that yourself. You're young, you've got plenty of great years ahead of you. You deserve to be with someone who appreciates you for who you are and what you do. Don't look back 10 years from now and realize you should have done it.

Regarding your chickens... there are some places to rent that would allow you to keep chickens. I don't know if your coop is movable or not; but you may also need to get rid of a few or all, as hard as that may be.

Good luck!

 

[Me & My Peeps]

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Agreed!! Nothing else to say about it. Its not easy taking that step, but its the hardest part of it. You have what is called the "Battered wife syndrome" you are trapped into thinking, "well, maybe if I didnt do this or if dinner was ready on time, or if I made more money"..........You have to realize that a healthy relationship is formed by 2 people with the same goals, not 1 and the other with an attitude.

Get out, put it behind you before you bring some innocent children into this world......THEN things really change!!!! Ask anyone here. If youve left that many times......its a billboard telling you to make it permanent.

 

[geeber]

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Coming from a chick -- get out while the getting is good. Life is short! Be strong & cut ALL ties. Dont look back & give yourself a good 6 months to a yr to heal. You wont regret it.

Cry in private & show her that living well is indeed the best revenge.

 

[linben]

I agree with the previous postings that you need to get out and don't look back. I know it is hard because they have become your family. There is too much joy in life to waste yours with someone who sounds bitter and mean. YOU WON'T CHANGE HER. Find the joy in life.