Need help - when do people REALLY become adults???

[yotetrapper]

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Yes, but you are 69 and at the time you grew up in men were men by the time they were 16. Today, they seem to take longer.... alot longer.

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

I think most people age gradually, taking on more and more responsibilities, become more and more adult as time goes on. I think excess marijuana can really slow that down. I know a few people who are in their 50's, but smoke so much, that I don't think they've matured since 15 or 16. Some people are thrust into adult situations, and either sink or swim. I got pregnant (accidentally) at 19, and the second I found out I was pregnant, i stopped drinking and doing other bad things, and I found a job and an apt. (instead of living with my parents, which I was doing between semesters), and took responsibility for the pregnancy, and for figuring it out with my BF. My son is now 7 1/2, and has been joined by 2 sisters, (same father), and we're married, and pretty happy, and pay our bills, and my kids eat vegetables almost every meal, and I just try to do my best! I just turned 28, and I think I'm as grown up as I'm going to get, barring any tragedies. Tragedy ages you quick.

 

[2 Beauts]

You're a grown up when you're at your own place and realize you're the one who is going to have to reach in the toilet to get out whatever it was you dropped.

 

[chickenofthesea]

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BAH-HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

now the only problem Kelly has is going to be finding a picture to go with this one.

 

[3goodeggs]

I have been thinking about this all day. Not all parents are 'grown up' and yet can have children who are more mature and responsible than their 'grown up' parents.
The idea that "it's my life and I will do what I want" always baffled me.
It isn't just 'your' life. It belongs to everyone who loves you. It belongs to everyone who depends on and needs you. Ignoring your family to go to a bar is selfish-if you are 21 0r 41.
Not doing what you say you are going to do is hurtful, if you are 18 or 81.

It is your life, and your life alone, when you have hurt so many people you finally are alone.


You can not live your life the way you want to, because it infringes on the lives around you.

 

[Kelly G]

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BAH-HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

now the only problem Kelly has is going to be finding a picture to go with this one.

I work in a GYN office

Surely, I can find SOMETHING!!!!

 

[Kelly G]

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THIS is awesome!!!!!!!!! My husband and I love this!

And I love this thread - everyone has such good perspectives.

I love this kid so much - but she really is one of the most selfish people I know. It makes me sad. We have raised her and her sister exactly the same way - and they couldn't be more different. She has so many gifts, but they are often obscurred by this one aspect of her personality. I think there are two types of people in this world (over-simplified, of course). There are givers and there are takers. I remember being excited when I was 18...but I did not think I was an adult! I was excited to be going off to college - and I loved the freedom - but I knew who buttered my bread.

Here she is - just so you can put a face to all this...she's at the front, and our youngest is behind -

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

my oldest daughter is beginning to be the same way... she thinks 'pretty' is more important than 'kind', and doesn't ever want to do anything that's not on her own 'agenda'... I'm doing my best to nip it in the bud.... before she's old enough to actually DO what she wants (she's 5)! Good luck!