Need help with over friendly neighbors asap!!!!!

[seedcorn]

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Agree on weeds, he can turn you in and you will have to get rid of them........good luck w/out chemicals--and they will be expensive chemicals.

Trees will reduce yields if they are near border, they will cost him money.

If you want him to continue snow plowing, better think long and even longer before saying anything to him. Explaining to him your plan to allow it the "wild" look had better come with a plan that YOU will follow. Growing wild w/no supervision is not a PLAN.

While it is your ground, your decision does affect other people.

 

[ole-crone]

So glad that others hit on the noxious weed idea. From listening to the surrounding farmers around here, nothing a farm family hates more is to see former farm land turned into a hobby farm and watch it turn into a huge weedpatch. We prefer the wild look too but our farm neighbors would always break out the herbicides and spray the perimeter of our land - something we didn't want either.

Perhaps you should tell him that you like the 'wild look' and ask if he has any suggestions of something you could grow that wouldn't seed and spread to his property.

There is a 'No Mow' lawn seed mix you can buy. They include sheep fescue and flowering plants - check at territorial seeds.

 

[seedcorn]

spray the perimeter of our land

I'm curious, for all the people that moved into country, did you have it surveyed and staked? If not, your perimeter may not be your perimeter. I know where I was told the perimeter was, was wrong.........

Don't want him on your property, do you stay off of his...that means four wheelers, dogs, cats, kids, etc. Most farmers I work with get real irritated w/people who move to country and treat their ground like it is state park ground or in some cases like a "free" dumping ground.

Kill all weeds, keep them dead and most problems will go away. Just because it flowers doesn't mean it still isn't a weed. Dandelions are real difficult to kill in fields and are real yield robbers for just one example. What kills dandelions, also kills soybeans.

 

[Dilly]

Yep first thing we always do prior to close of escrow is a survey of entire property. Lines are corrected as with fencing.

I agree most have no clue, just becase a fence has been there forever, doesn't mean it is correct. Same with easements. If someone uses one long enough, they have a legal right to it.

 

[summerwindsfarm]

Another thing to consider is wild fires. I dont know how far his house is from yours or what his crops are that are in between but around here really tall weeds are frowned upon because in a wildfire situation they can create a fire that destroys hundreds of acres and everything on them.

Mowing your pasture will only improve the quality of your grass. When you keep the weeds cut the grass will take over. If you dont keep it cut the weeds will take over and you wont have any grass.

Stand firm on the trees. He probably sincerely thinks hes doing you a favor..and protecting himself from noxious weeds and wildfires in the process.

 

[chickens4jojo]

This is just my opinion only: Please check your state laws on "Adverse Possession" and "Title by Acquiesence."
After a certain number of years, they can possibly claim they own your land because you did not stop them from working on it & yes, they could possibly TAKE YOUR LAND WITHOUT PAYING FOR IT. I would definitely be friendly, but firm with them & try to find some way to do all of my own work on my land possibly? They may already know this law themselves.

Personally, they do not sound neighborly to me~~nor friendly, but best wishes on whatever you decide to do.

 

[chickens4jojo]

Just another thought: If you allow them to work on your land, it would be good if you send them a certified, return receipt letter stating the type of work you would allow them to do & keep some copies for yourself as well. This MAY prevent them from being able to claim your land as their own.

I would definitely get some legal advice on this as I am not a lawyer of any kind~~just had as difficult "learning experience" with something that sounds quite similar.

Once again:: Just my Opinion!! Best wishes.

 

[joebryant]

Ninny, if you're letting somebody else run your property and tell you what he/she is going to do with it, you have more problems than just your neighbors' aggressive behavior.
That being said, I can only suggest your realizing that he and his wife are NOT your friends. Go to the store and buy a backbone, have it out with him, and don't mix any words. If he and his wife never speak to you again, you'll be better off. If he persists in trying to run your life, get a restraining order against him and her.

 

[patandchickens]

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I dunno. This would seem to ignore some of the realities of rural life (in many places anyhow). There are any number of ways that a sufficiently ticked-off person can make serious, serious trouble for you; and any number of ways that the law can turn out not to prevent it.

Plus, as I understand it, ninny was not even home when the original drive-by-mowing occurred, so I don't see how anyone can fault her for that

Why make things worse than necessary. In my experience, bad neighbors are very seldom abducted by space aliens, never to return... so a person is likely to be dealing with the fallout from whatever happens for a LONG time. Sometimes a friendly smile, a little pie, some attempted understanding, and flexibility (within reason!) make life EVER so much smoother and more pleasant.

(True in suburban and urban situations as well, actually

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Pat

 

[Oblio13]

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I get the opposite impression - they are your friends, or at least they're trying to be. He thought he was doing you a favor by mowing your field, and you're certainly willing to have him plow for you.

I bend over backwards to stay on good terms with my neighbors because I have to, like, live next to them and stuff.

It's paid off over and over. There have been times when I bit my tongue, but now I'm glad I did. Just last week when I hurt my foot taking my dock apart, my neighbors came over unasked and finished the job for me. We take care of each other and the neighborhood is a pleasant place.