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Need Help with possible new friend and me being shy

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by Livinzoo, Sep 27, 2009.

  1. Livinzoo

    Livinzoo Chillin' With My Peeps

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    So I'm a very shy person and it takes a bit for me to warm up to people. My husband is the same way. We don't have many friends because it is hard for me to meet people.

    Well a girl contacted me on Myspace. From her description she enjoys many of the same things I do. She is new to the area and asked if I would like to hang out sometime.

    I would but I have trouble conveying myself and I think I come on too strong or too weak, not really sure.

    Can anyone help me start this friendship off right?

    Lol, yes I'm 31 and asking for social skill advice. Just not something I have ever learned.
     
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  2. LegHorn-BusHorn

    LegHorn-BusHorn Chillin' With My Peeps

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    My Space...not good! You will meet someone.
     
  3. GaNewChick

    GaNewChick Chillin' With My Peeps

    Mar 12, 2009
    McDonough, Ga.
    I would be careful, communicate for a few weeks by email only. If you ever choose to meet her in person, make it at a mall *Mall of Ga.* or big restrauant and in your vehicle.
     
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  4. Livinzoo

    Livinzoo Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Yeah I know all about internet meetings of people. I've dated off the internet in the past.

    I'm just worried that I'll stick my foot in my mouth or not communicate properly. Like I must not have communicated on here very well because the responses don't answer my questions.

    Thanks anyway though.
     
  5. GaNewChick

    GaNewChick Chillin' With My Peeps

    Mar 12, 2009
    McDonough, Ga.
    Sorry if it sounded like I was preaching...[​IMG]

    If you have things in common, then that is ground zero to build a friendship. Do you both have kids to talk about, church, shopping, food...anything in common to start the ball rolling. I don't see where you would have a problem communicating and starting the friendship.
     
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  6. keesmom

    keesmom Overrun With Chickens

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    I am also someone who doesn't communicate very well. I probably won't convey what I mean now either. [​IMG] But if you think you'd like to meet her to do something then do it. Pick an activity you both enjoy, maybe one that's not too long, and give it a try to see what happens.

    Some people just got to know the way I am and accepted it. And I'm still friends with them too.

    -Cindy
     
  7. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    You could explain to her that you are shy and uncomfortable with first meetings, but would love to try it.
     
  8. chickenwhisperer123

    chickenwhisperer123 Whispers Loudly

    Mar 7, 2009
    Lincoln, Nebraska
    RELAX!!

    I think you will be better off if you are yourself, and dont worry so much about what you say. Just wait and see, she may be just as shy as you.


    Good Luck!
    Jason
     
  9. JewellFarm

    JewellFarm Chillin' With My Peeps

    Apr 22, 2009
    Lebanon, Virginia
    Just be yourself. Try not to be too nervous. Find out more about her before you meet. Find things you both generally have in common then when you meet you can have lots to talk about.
     
  10. insiderart

    insiderart Obviously Insane

    Apr 30, 2009
    Arkansas
    Just meet for coffee. Nothing big or earth shattering. Then discuss things you have in common. Either you'll hit it off or not. Don't put so much pressure on yourself.
     

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