Need Kid Opinion - Being too Heavy Handed?

[Boyd]

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[LarryPQ]

work then fun...then further chores next week.

 

[6chickens in St. Charles]

Going to the dance was not conditional upon getting housework done BEFORE you got sick, so darn it, being a consistent and strategic parent wins this time. So if it were me, the dance would remain unrelated to their lack of housekeeping, except "How will they smell on dance day?" would be their problem. But my mom always said "you never have to accept behavior that is unacceptable", so in my case we'd get the house clean whether the dance was on or not.

And beware the fatique and exhaustion of the flu! They may be dirty piggy kids, but your flu could make you seriously depressed about anything, including an overflowed garbage can! Once you're recovered, a week from now the housekeeping problem could feel like a much smaller issue.

Some way or another, unless their arms have fallen off, they have to clean up after themselves. Even then, there are assistive devices for armless homekeepers! I've been there, too. I always thought I could respect a mate who chose not to do dishes or laundry, but I'd find it hard to respect a guy who looked unable to. I dont want to marry a full time care recipient. I am a friend and lover, not a custodial caregiver. So I try to pass on the ability of self care to my kids. I fail a lot, but thats my goal = self sufficiency. Gosh darn it, my guys will be sorting their own #@$! socks before they leave my nest!

 

[GAChknGirl]

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Thats how we did it at my house im 19 i moved out at 17 going on 18 2 days after i graduated but if we did this we would all work together at my house to get it done and without arguing or fighting or there would be no homecoming!

 

[Dar]

ok i am going to be out in the cold here

go to homecoming first.... its a right of passage they will remember it the rest of their lives. I wish I went to the home coming dance but i did not

however after homecoming crack the whip and crack it hard take cell phones away, computer time ect.

the house needs to be clean as soon as they wake up from the ball and they only stop to eat and use the washroom they have to earn the right to have their phones and computers back ect...

i know i am a big mush but dont take homecoming away

 

[TheOLDNewChick]

Coming from little ol' me (who has little to no interest in dances...waste of my time and money, thanks.), tell them to get their butts in gear. Get it done quick, and get it done right. You'll be surprised how fast they can move and how they thorough they can be when something they want is on the line.

Either that, or you could do what I would do, and ground them. Hasta La Vista, Homecoming! See ya next year!
Yeah. I'm gonna be a mean mom, I know. But seeing as how they think that since a parent is sick they can slack off and let the house get like that...no homecoming.


P.S.
I'm also a clean freak.

 

[The Chicken People]

One Homecoming out of four years of High School will not hurt them! Make them clean the entire house! After all if u were sick in bed and mom busy running their behinds around..then whose mess is it? Exactly ..THIERS! I have raised four kids and as adults all have thanked us for being the parents we were...and that meant responsibilities! If all looks good before the Homecoming then you choose if they go, curfew and whether or not there will be a punishment for the absolute disrespect of family and responsibilities! Stand up for who you want them to be in the future! Un worn dresses can be returned!

 

[Boyd]

actually everyone in the house knows that if they dont do their chores they get NO privileges. But this is homecoming that's why I am thinking of making an exception.

 

[Dar]

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if thats the case they can go to homecoming for all 4 yrs of high school...then i would like to change my first post...

no clean house = no home coming...

here the only people who get to go to homecoming is the graduating class or if you are the date of a member of the grad class we call it "the formal" and its usually done in may

 

[Boyd]

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if thats the case they can go to homecoming for all 4 yrs of high school...then i would like to change my first post...

no clean house = no home coming...

here the only people who get to go to homecoming is the graduating class or if you are the date of a member of the grad class we call it "the formal" and its usually done in may

We have "the formal" but we call it prom up here. Homecoming is the same week we play our rival highschool football team.