Need some personal help here...

[MiniDriver]

Does your brother live in Key West, or is this a destination wedding? I'd be more inclined to go if he lived there, than if he simply chose his ideal wedding location and assumed all his friends and family would be willing to shell out the bucks to go.

If you can't afford it, don't go. Invite him and his new bride to come visit you.

 

[Cheekon]

Maybe you should ask your bro how he'd feel about it and not just how mum thinks he'll feel.

 

[Bec]

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[Dilly]

Honestly Bec, we do not know you or your husband, we do not know both sides to this drama.

It is unfair to ask for advice on a one sided conversation. I am sure if you married this man, bore his children, he is not the stubborn mean unreasonable bully you are making him out to be.

I would suggest you find some quiet time and talk to your husband. At the very least open your heart and let him know where you are on all this.

The fact that you discussed the intimate details with your mother already, you put him on the defensive. Keep your problems and conflict in house until you both come to a decision. You know your husband better than anyone or should. Find out what it is that is truly bothering him about all this. Even if that means accepting that you may of made demands on him in the past that HE Respected and missed his brothers wedding.


Dilly

 

[Bec]

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[Dilly]

Bec I am sorry you feel attacked. I only repeated what you said.

I was offerring advice, talk to your husband.

The way you just posted shows that you do not want to see his perspective, or allow him to share his side. If he did, then the advice you will get will be based on both sides to this, not just what you want to hear.

Again, I was only trying to be fair to you both.

 

[FutureChickenMan]

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You should never have to choose between your parent(s) and your spouse. Been there done that. If you do get forced in to choosing, choose your spouse. If your family doesn't understand, too bad for them.

 

[Bec]

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[DouglasPeeps]

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You should never have to choose between your parent(s) and your spouse. Been there done that. If you do get forced in to choosing, choose your spouse. If your family doesn't understand, too bad for them.

I second this advice!

 

[Bec]

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