News of the Weird!

[BearSwampChick]

Here's the latest 'News':

"Some employees of the Montana Department of Public Health and Human Services (please don't take offense, Montana friends!) complained earlier this year that new computers delivered to the office lacked games such as hearts, Minesweeper and solitaire, a supervisor told a Billings Gazette reporter in March. They protested, too, that older computers used by other employees still had the games."

So that's why I can't get timely service when I go to the courthouse!

 

[wegotchickens]

Did you read about the 7-year old girl who deliberately smacked a 10-month old baby girl into a concrete floor of the day care a couple of times? They said she had "anger management issues".
The baby died.
DH and I were horrified, both by the situation and the explanation.

 

[ChuckenGirl]

wow. My parents raised me to respect my elders and if i mouth off I get screamed at, and my dad when he screams or yells [whatever it is men do] its and earthquake. If i don't listen or do something im not suppose to [I dont get spanked anymore] but i get disiplined BIG TIME! but i dont do bad stuff really, just never clean my room. I dont care what people say but spanking your child is not abusive its disipline. Those people need to get punched in the face for one making up the stupid thoughts when they could be researching the cure for cancer and two, well they just have no life "researching" that nonsense. man, I wish i grew up when my parents were kids, now that was a great time :] now a days its just a mess, high taxes, high gas prices, no room for GOD and people are just ignorant to everything. Now this is all coming for a 15 year old perspective, so some might not agree.

 

[Nichole77]

Critter hill- you say that being spanked didn't work. But you are married and have children. It doesn't seem like you live in the ghetto. Your not typing from prison. It doesn't seem like you live with your parents on welfare. So think about it, those spankings just might have worked.

Everyone has said "where are the parents?" They are at work. I understand we all need money, but personally I will do without so that my children can be properly supervised.

 

[CritterHill]

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Spankings did not cause any change in behavior. Neither my DH nor I ever failed to do something for fear of being spanked. We never changed our behavior because we were spanked. It just didn't register for us. We were more attuned to privilege removal, groundings, generalized anger from the parent who _didn't_ spank. THOSE were the things we changed our behavior to avoid.

I'm sure different people have different experiences, but that was our experience.

I do not wish this thread to devolve into the time tested daycare vs stay at home Mom debate, but I will tell you that both of my girls are in daycare. There are bad daycares and there are good daycares. Do your homework, stay with the kid for several FULL DAYS when they first are enrolled, get to know the teachers, make the teachers your friends, make sure you are able to respect the teachers (if you can't muster up respect and friendship with the teachers, you need to look elsewhere for child care).

Once they are enrolled, stop by randomly, unannounced.

Yes, I admit that there is a benefit to the mother staying at home with the kids. Wouldn't it be nice if we were all in a situation to do that. i have a very complex situation and I will tell you that sending them to daycare is the best option FOR MY KIDS. Not for me, for them.

They learn a LOT that they would not otherwise learn at home with me. Things I don't know and couldn't teach. My one year old came home signing one day - I don't know sign language! But my kids do and they taught me.

My kids are entertained, disciplined, taught, and loved at their school. When my oldest was diagnosed, the teachers cried with me because they love her like I do.

I simply do NOT have discipline problems with my kids. I don't spank and I am not a stay at home Mom. It can be done.

I have had an overwhelmingly positive experience with my daycare and maybe that is not the norm, but don't pass it off as a bad choice of lifestyle.

Good luck to you whatever you do. Every situation is different, every child is different and there is no black and white answer as to what is the RIGHT way to live your life. What is right for me, may not be right for you.

 

[bluie]

I don't believe in spanking and my kids are good kids. I am also a high school teacher in a minority school. I love my students and I feel absolutely safe with no corporal punishment.

 

[chicken_boy_Kurt]

My uncle grew up in a Catholic school where they were allowed to spank the kids. And it didn't help that his mom was a teacher there. But he doesn't spank his kids. They don't listen to their mom and only there dad. And they are kinda spoiled.

 

[Lil Chirp]

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that is not funny.

 

[luvmychicknkids]

You know.....it kinda goes both ways. Bad parenting causes bad kids, but parents are almost afraid to parent anymore, too. Only once has one of my three boys ever had a tantrum. It was in the middle of Sam's when he was about 2ish. I was horrified and picked him up to take him to the restroom....my intention (and what I did) was to sit him on the changing table and have a serious talk about his behavior. I had 4 employees follow me to the restroom and was then interrogated about my intentions...before and after my talk with him. I was then watched and followed until I left the store. There was a teacher in Anchorage when I lived there who was fired and arrested for placing her hand on the shoulder of a very unruly, constantly in trouble, child. I have no clue what the outcome was, but when she was arrested they admitted they knew she caused no harm to the child but said she had no right to EVER touch a child in her care. My boys are 11, 8, and 7. They are awesome kids. In fact, and elderly woman took the time to tell me today that they were the most well behaved children she had seen in ages. They are kids, however, and their are times when I have no choice but to discipline them. I just do it in the most appropriate method according to what they did wrong. It seems to be working.

 

[Oblio13]

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that is not funny.

I think it is. It was appropriate, too. Boys, especially, need hands-on "instant feedback".