I suppose you are right in that regard as people do not always get married or shack up out of love and respect for each other, usually it is for convenience. Marriage doesn't seem to be as "cool" anymore.
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I can appreciate that perspective! I understand and recognize that as a huge part of relationships and especially marriages. If one loves someone, of course they will be willing to make sacrifices and do uncomfortable things for the person they love. I think I'm thinking more along the lines of abusive situations, and people who make poor life decisions as an attempt to align with the desires of other people. Like what the original poster was talking about, where people become a "doormat" for others because their self-esteem is poor or because they believe they have to do these things in order to make people happy. Now that is certainly unhealthy, and sad...
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I can appreciate that perspective! I understand and recognize that as a huge part of relationships and especially marriages. If one loves someone, of course they will be willing to make sacrifices and do uncomfortable things for the person they love. I think I'm thinking more along the lines of abusive situations, and people who make poor life decisions as an attempt to align with the desires of other people. Like what the original poster was talking about, where people become a "doormat" for others because their self-esteem is poor or because they believe they have to do these things in order to make people happy. Now that is certainly unhealthy, and sad...
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