O.K. No more helping "friends"

[sumi]

Well, you all should hear MY language when I deal with this guy. I'd get banned from this forum!
Just to give you an idea what I'm dealing with (please watch your language, everyone:
He went away for two days some time ago. Left his cat in the house with no litter tray and either not enough food or no food. Came back and found kitty used the fireplace as a toilet and "stole food". Flipped his lid, loaded the poor cat in the car, drove a few miles into the middle of nowhere and dumped it.
I never liked that cat, it had a nasty attitude, but no matter what he did, it didn't deserve this. I was very upset when I heard about it. Of course he didnt tell me, he told DH, as he knows my temper, especially when it comes to animal abuse. My blood still boils when I think about it. If you don't want an animal, take it to an animal shelter or find it a good home!
As for the chickens, I'm waiting, trying to limit damage, keeping an eye on things. The moment he has a problem with a chicken, it gets dumped by me. I take care of it, get it better and give it a good loving home. If he messes up, I'll just step in and buy him out. We've got plenty space for them here. He's only got about 2acres of rather barren land.
It just gets a bit hard sometimes like yesterday when he killed that chick. I wonder if he realised by doing that he put a big, fat nail in his coffin.

 

[greeneggsandham]

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Unless he lives in a no zoning area and can have as many animals as he wants I highly doubt he is going to be allowed 2000 chickens on his property.

Sorry you have to deal with a nit wit.

 

[JD4570]

Wow, this guy sound about as smart as someone who pees into a fan and complains that someone is peeing on him! If you can buy him out that would be fine but I would back off until the crap hits the fan and then make the offer or let him come to you.

 

[sumi]

He will probably come running when things go wrong, well, he does that anyway! I'd happily buy him out when it goes belly up.
He asked DH to help him build a new incubator and I know he's counting on me to hatch eggs for him. Well, he didn't ask yet, but the answer will be "NO". I'm still upset with him about the pig incident. And if he wants a reason for my refusal I will mention that and say his attitude P's me off.
Still waiting for a thank you for the effort I put into hatching the last lot of eggs for him too.
You all helped me make up my mind. He can go jump off a cliff and I'll take care of the chickens.

 

[spacecowgirl]

^^ Thatta girl!!

You don't have to put up with anyone using you for anything! This guy will surely come to you for help again, but you don't stand up for yourself, who will?

Oh, and I've known people like him, and it seems they've never even heard of the words "thank you", or "I'm sorry".

If I were you I'd tell hem where to go....

Please keep us posted on what happens next.

 

[zzGypsy]

good decision!

I think you've been way too patient with him and he really doesn't deserve any good will after how he's acted.
hoping your hubby has said NO to building that incubator - wouldn't want to have ANY of his coming bad karma on your heads.

if it were me, he wouldn't be getting far enough on my property to ask for help any more... besides, it's kinda hard to formulate a question when you're digging 12 gauge rock salt outa your backside...

 

[maybejoey]

 

[frostbite]

Be cautious about your desire to tell him off. People who are that disrespectful and unreasonable are often also vengeful. You're safest bet is to say no, be firm, but be unerringly polite. "Vengeance is mine, says the Lord" with good reason. Stay safe. And remember, holding a grudge is like letting someone live in your head rent free. Let him go and live happy.

 

[Whittni]

I hate animal abuse too, but there's nothing YOU can really do for the people, only the animals: call animal control when you see a dead carcass, they should conduct an investigation. Or go on with the vet thing you had mentioned. You said you plan to buy him out, and then he gets even more, what will you do? He'll keep the process up until the chickens are doorknob, dead?

 

[sumi]

Update:
He informed me awhile ago that we will continue incubating eggs in his box and I will get 1/3 of the chicks that hatch. I said I'd consider it if I get 1/2 the chicks. He stormed off saying he'd think about it.
Came round today with the box. Said to him I was hoping I will never see that thing again and got a funny look, but no reply. He and DH started talking about improving the thing etc and he said "we" must get some eggs in it soon. I got up and walked off. He followed after a minute and said if I provide the eggs etc I can get 4/10 of the chicks. I said I'm doing all the work, paying the electricity, replacing blown bulbs out of my pocket etc. So it'll cost me X in electricity + X money I lose by not selling the eggs I put in the box so total is Y. He on the other hand puts no money into and want more than half the chicks!
He says I'll get chicks out if it.
I say I've got an incubator taking 27 eggs and my one, which I'm getting soon, will take even more, so I don't need his "help" to expand my flock.
He says how much will the chicks I get from him be worth in money terms, so I say add up my expense, then say I get 20 chicks who are worth so much and I actually don't win. Whereas he puts NO money into it and get chicks!
So he says he paid for the box and I say I'm paying for the electricity etc which I will not get back and at the end of the day he will still have the box...
So he mumbles something about making another plan. I.e. get some other sucker to hatch his chicks for him.
Good luck to him is all I'm saying. Glad he got the hint!
P.S. Last time someone stopped helping him there was a burned down tool shed incident and some other nasty stuff, but I'm not worried. I've taken on worse than him before.