Old Boyfriend Looking for ME!

[Shannonwbl]

If you feel you would like to contact him, first discuss it with your husband. If he says "okay" then contact him and sign it from both you AND your husband. That should suffice in being polite while making it perfectly clear you are a married woman.

 

[sred98]

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See, I would be afraid of something like this. I'm sorry you had to go through that, AV.

There was no way for you to know, though.

I am in contact with one of my "Major" exes on FB, we don't chat. Did a quick catch-up in messages one night, but that's it. Just, "Hey, you doing ok? Happy? Married? Kids?" and that's pretty much it. I think we really just wanted to make sure everything was ok.

I think you've gotten a lot of good advice here. The most important is to keep DH in the loop. No matter what. Otherwise, you're hiding something, and if you're hiding something...you're hiding something.

I hope everything goes well if you do decide to contact him.

No major drama or anything like that. Keep us posted!

Shelly

 

[debilorrah]

Forget about it. Leave it where it has been all along - in the past.

 

[beefy]

i wonder if his wife encouraged him to go to all that trouble to find you? i doubt it. my guess is they split or she died or something and hes wondering if you are available

 

[reesepoultry]

I would tell my hubby that this guy tried to get into contact with you, just so there are no secrets for him to find out later. I would not respond back to this guy. I would think he wants to be more than just friends. I would also think that your hubby would say it was ok but, it really would break his heart. I know it would crush me for my hubby to go see an ex. "Don't do upon other's that you don't want upon you" I personally would forget about the whole thing of contacting him. It could really hurt your marriage. I hope you don't mind me saying, but you seemed awful excited to contact him back. That is not a good sign. That could mean trouble if you hang out with him. I would recommend staying away. But, it is your decision on what you do. I just don't think it is a very good idea. Hope you figure out what to do. Only you can decide what you are doing.

 

[redhen]

Since he was also a friend and went to your wedding..why not contact him??..
I dont know..i dont see the big deal..

 

[JewellFarm]

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I have to agree. If it were me, I would let the past be just that, the past.

 

[australorpchick]

Have you asked DH what he would do? How would you feel if the roles were reversed? I'd ignore.

 

[duck walk]

I suggest letting it go...no need to reconnect or go looking for trouble...home with husband is where you need to be...

 

[karen71]

IDK I think you might want to stay away from this one since the e mail was passionate - sounds like he's looking for more than saying hey .