I sent home a note with her asking parents to provide dietary needs so I can be prepared, list of meds, all phone numbers, emergency contact person nearby and doctor's numbers.
I told DH if the parents were going to be just around the corner it would be one thing, but they're going to be over an hour away. I am treating this like I would a scouting trip. If they show up without the info she doesn't stay.
And, I want an alternate number of some one I can call at ten PM if she needs to go. We'll see.
I just need to keep reminding myself - she's only 9, she's only 9
(I did mention that she is taller than me and wear a bigger bra size??)