OVERWHELMED with CRAaaaaaap!!!!

[noodleroo]

No kidding, right? She says she keeps seeing them in her periferal (sp) vision...

 

[kathyinmo]

Well, in the past couple months we have had unexpected expenses of 2 hot water heaters needing replaced, air conditioner motor replaced, automobile something (forgot what, but it cost $450.), etc...... Anyway, over $2,000 in 2 months.

BUT then, I saw this thread, and decided I wasn't so bad off.......

https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=390688

I am fortunate in that I can just work a little overtime, right?

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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YES we are FORTUNATE! But...if I don't vent somewhere I'll splode

You have really had a crappy couple months sister! I'm workin on it

Maybe that guy should come over here and vent too...ALL chciken owners know how much of a good thing proper ventilation is

 

[EweSheep]

 

[TheChickenCameFirst]

Awwww, I'm sorry you've had such a crappy day! As for anything I'm going through at the moment, none of it adds up to that bad of a day! The worst thing that happened today is the fact that I am sick, and I had to go grocery shopping in the POURING RAIN, and of course there are never any parking spots close to the store when it's raining. So, I was soaked and had squeaky shoes through the whole store. Like I said, nothing like what you're going through, but put me in a sour mood (Head hurts + screaming baby... not a good mix arugh...)

 

[3goodeggs]

sorry you all are having some bad days.

It is good that you can laugh at some of it though.

hug to us all! hugs all around!!

 

[crtrlovr]

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It sounds like neither your family nor the relative living w/ you is happy. She might be happier in an assisted living / nursing home where she could have people near her own age, and it would be less stressful for you. It might be difficult for her to adjust initially, but instead of being a bad thing, it could be a very good move for her as well as your family. Not everyone who lives in a nursing home or assisted living home is "dumped" or abandoned. My own mother has told each of us children that if the time ever comes to where she cannot live in her home, she does NOT want to live with any of us, despite the fact that she loves us all dearly. She has asked to live in a retirement / assisted living / nursing home if she can't live at home.

 

[WingingIt]

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Believe me, it's been considered and discussed (and will be again). She is ADAMANT that she does not want to go into a home. Mainly because she 1. can't take her cat and, 2. they will take her income and she won't be able to buy the massive amounts of sweets, curtains and sheets that she loves to spend money on. She's very much a low income senior, so medicare/medicaid would be picking up her tab so she'd get the bare minimum allotment required and she was well aware of this before she moved in here thanks to the hospital social worker. The other side of that issue is that there are no assisted living or nursing or care homes in this town or the nearest 3 towns. It would be roughly an hour drive. DH is military and often not around. I have three kids that are in Scouts, 4H, regular school stuff. It WOULD fall on me to arrange visits and it would be harder on me to try and add that to the already ridiculous schedule and I wouldn't want her to feel abandoned there.

Not to mention that right after her rant I calmly informed her that she and DH could find her a home together because she's obviously not happy here and I'm not going to keep this up when she's apparently miserable (not to mention I don't want her making US miserable) she immediately went into backtrack mode crying about how much she loves it here, the kids keep her going, please don't make her go live with strangers, she'll hate it there because they'll make her meet new people and do 'stuff' (I think she means crafts and stuff, which she'd enjoy if she'd give it a chance)....

She's not my relative. I'm dumping this on DH and he can handle it. I'm out of enthusiasm for it right now and I have plenty of crazy in my own family.

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

I know this won't help much, but it got me through ALOT of bad stuff.


"God won't make you go through something that you won't succeed against."

OR

"That which does not kill you, only makes you stronger."

 

[Miltonchix]

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This sounds more like she is frustrated with HER situation more than mad at you. Think about it. She's outlived her children, spouse, and close relatives, is unable to do the things shes always done (cleaning her way, cooking her way etc) . Now she's just frustrated with LIFE, not you. Unfortunately that doesn't make the abusive treatment any more palatable for you. Understanding her frustrations, and talking with her about them, MAY help. Do you have Senior Center nearby? She would probably fight if you mentioned her going for a day to be with people closer to her own age, but if you just took her, take her inside and sit with her the first time, she would probably thank you. This made a HUGE difference for my FIL. He thought it was the stupidest idea anyone had ever come up with. Now, he looks forward to going and realizes he's not the only one frustrated with growing old and losing friends/family. On days he goes and spends an afternoon with other seniors he is a new person. Happier, more patient with kids, and ................human. Not a bear all the time.
ALSO, SHE MIGHT MEET AN ELIGIBLE 85 YEAR OLD MAN, AND GET MARRIED AND MOVE IN WITH HIM!!