People are so ungrateful

[Mac in Wisco]

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I agree. Communicate with her. Tell her, "Hey, I was just trying to help you out, and I don't appreciate being treated this way."

She may just be confused.

I was driving a plow truck and spreading sand for the local village today. I passed a small apartment complex where the parking lot hadn't been plowed and the entrance had a small windrow from plowing the streets. This was late in the day and pretty much everybody in the village had everything cleaned up, except for this place. The landlord must not hire anybody and the residents do nothing. A young gal pulled out in her car and pulled up beside me and asked if I could clean out the entrance because she almost got stuck trying to get out...

I wanted to tell her "Take it up with your landlord!", but I told her I'd see what I could do (which wasn't much). I dropped the blade as I came by and probably plowed it in deeper. Some people just don't know "what's what" and how things are supposed to work. The village would have caught hell from other residents if others had see me clearing out a private drive with a village truck.

 

[hannakat]

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Third time is the charm.....not hers! She is being very honest about not appreciating the free attention. I'd take it as a warning and steer clear. You're hubby's a good one, don't get tangled with someone like her.

 

[wolftracks]

I wouldn't confront her.

I wouldn't make a smart remark.

I'd stop plowing and move on.

When you see her smile and say good morning, but only if you did before.

Do everything the same as you did before, except touching her property.

Women are more confrontational than men.

Women also figure out a way for payback.

If you confront her, she may just use it against you, so just don't go it.

If she comes to you, tell her your husband was hurt and embarrassed and he figured she wanted to take care of it herself.

MILK IT! Pour on the honey, whatever it takes, but make it sound like she tossed a lost puppy into that snow that's now going to cover her property.

Tell her it really has upset him that someone would be mad at him trying to be a good neighbor and he doesn't feel right doing it now and has concidered stopping all together.

Bet she tells the next guy and they take care of her problem with you when they think they aren't getting free work done.

Whatever you do, be nice and let her be the bad guy.

Maybe even just do your own property and if someone asks, play it to the hilt and let them know he's afraid to do it since it's upset someone.

Like I said. WORK IT!

 

[Wisher1000]

Send her a note in reply:

Dear Mrs. (insert name),

I am truly sorry if I caused you any inconvenience, it was not my intention to do so. I plowed your drive to the best of my ability, I am sure a professional can do a better job for you next time.

Your neighbor,
(insert name)

There is no need for drama, if anyone asks, tell them that she chose to hire a professional (she did.) Treat her the exact same as you always have - except for skipping her drive!

 

[redhen]

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[wolftracks]

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If it's in writing it's evidence.

 

[Wisher1000]

There is no admission of wrong doing...only of plowing the drive (and if that were in question, there are plenty of witnesses to that fact.)

 

[seedcorn]

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NO, let it DIE. What is this big reason for drama? She doesn't like the way your husband plows our her lane, so DON'T. Some of the advice on here is destined to stir up more problems. Let it go.

 

[19hhbelgian]

No good deed goes unpunished... Let it go and simply don't do it anymore. Too much liability involved anyway (do you have insurance if someone would actually sue you?) Things in the business world arent pretty, and that's the realm he has entered if he has taken money for plowing, even if it was offered rather than being charged.

 

[herefordlovinglady]

“If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.