People are so ungrateful

[Hillsvale]

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that!

 

[Dar]

can I give you my address?... I dont have trees to hurt... all my trees are 100+ years old...

she is such an ingrate... pass her by!

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

DH has chosen at the moment to ignore it. He thinks she is just a nasty bitter lonely old lady. He did landscaping for her once before and he said all day long it was endless criticism. She seems like one of those people that is simply never satisfied. What a sad way to live your life. Her own perpetual unhappiness is more punishment than any of us could manage.

But, he has not made up his mind as to whether or not to plow her drive again ---- he has until saturday to decide!

 

[MyKidLuvsGreenEgz]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

DH has chosen at the moment to ignore it. He thinks she is just a nasty bitter lonely old lady. He did landscaping for her once before and he said all day long it was endless criticism. She seems like one of those people that is simply never satisfied. What a sad way to live your life. Her own perpetual unhappiness is more punishment than any of us could manage.

But, he has not made up his mind as to whether or not to plow her drive again ---- he has until saturday to decide!

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No offense but did he read this thread? Great comments and lots of points of view. I can't believe he's even considering just ignoring the situation.​

 

[noodleroo]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

DH has chosen at the moment to ignore it. He thinks she is just a nasty bitter lonely old lady. He did landscaping for her once before and he said all day long it was endless criticism. She seems like one of those people that is simply never satisfied. What a sad way to live your life. Her own perpetual unhappiness is more punishment than any of us could manage.

But, he has not made up his mind as to whether or not to plow her drive again ---- he has until saturday to decide!

Yep, she has very low self esteem. It is a very sad way to live. Her misery is probably all she has...​

 

[WIChookchick]

Actually..
IF you can, tell him this, it would be better for him, and possibly her...
Ask her next time.
"Ma'am, would you like me to plow you out?"
IF she says no, he tried. If she says yes, then say, "Please let me do it my way, I will do the best I can. If you don't like it, I will ask again, and you can simply say no."

 

[dianaross77]

I just wanted to give you an alternate theory. She may not be ungrateful, mean, bitter, etc. I am the mother of a child with Asperger's Syndrome. It is a form of high functioning autism that can go undiagnosed for many people. He is a wonderful, caring boy who says everything that comes to mind and has almost no empathy for anyone. He says a lot of things that would make you think he is all of the things that people are saying about your neighbor. Some people can't help it. They would never want to intentionally hurt someone's feelings, they just don't understand. They are brutally honest and have no tact. I am not making excuses for her, I'm just saying try not to take it personally when you meet people like that. They may very well be "different" like my son.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

Something like Asperger's is quite possible for her. But, she really does seem very very unhappy. You can talk to her for an hour and not one nice thing will come out of her mouth. People who have no filter generally hit 50/50. They say whatever they think good or bad. People focus on the bad, but there is usually good too.

I did have DH read this thread to bolster his feeling that he can do what he wants. He's just very kind. I did advise him to refuse to accept any money from her in the future to help avoid lawsuits and keep him in the good samaritan role......

 

[SillyChicken]

Misery loves company.... I've worked for people like that who are never satisifed no matter what you do, the only joy they have in life is complaining about everything.

I would just stop doing it. I would not waste time sending letters or saying anything to her. Just leave it be and leave her be.

 

[MomtoSyd&Emma]

you are describing my great aunt to a T, NOTHING could be done to her liking, no matter how perfect it was done.

We all tried to years to make her happy, finally I just told her "Delcie, no matter what I do you wont be happy about it, figure out how to make yourself happy then call me for help"

It shocked her as I NEVER raised my voice to her, but we (my dh and I) had sweated our hineys off all day long doing yard work for her and she complained that we didnt get it all done quicker.


Some people just arent easy to please, I dont think they CAN be pleased.

we took her to a local icecream shop, to get a strawberry shortcake, she actually complained that it was too BIG!
I about died laughing, how can you get to much for your money lol

Your husband sounds like my husband, I tell him all the time he is to good for his own good!

Tell him he is setting stones in HIS crown by doing what hes doing, bless his heart