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Quote: It does not sound like this is the case at all. It sounds like she has some pretty heavy issues with control. If so, the honey vs. vinegar approach may not work at all, and may in fact make matters much worse. If dealing with issues of control and/or manipulation, setting firm boundaries is usually the route to take. Definitely do not make excuses for the poor behavior of others. It took me a long time to learn these lessons, but my relationship with a parent with OCPD (a controlling personality disorder) is finally improving as I improve my ability to set down boundaries and to finally realize that taking such steps are more than perfectly acceptable.
