People can be so mean :-(

Quote: It does not sound like this is the case at all. It sounds like she has some pretty heavy issues with control. If so, the honey vs. vinegar approach may not work at all, and may in fact make matters much worse. If dealing with issues of control and/or manipulation, setting firm boundaries is usually the route to take. Definitely do not make excuses for the poor behavior of others. It took me a long time to learn these lessons, but my relationship with a parent with OCPD (a controlling personality disorder) is finally improving as I improve my ability to set down boundaries and to finally realize that taking such steps are more than perfectly acceptable.
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I think you are right. I am aware that I'm dating her "little boy" but she has to understand that we are building a life together and she doesn't live here. And if she can't say something nice then dont,say anything at all.nwhich is what Ryan, my bf, called her up and told her when he saw how upset she made me. Which I thought was really awesome of him
 
Mean people suck. I think I've read that on a million t-shirts and bumper stickers. Anyway, as a father and father-in-law, I don't understand the issues some people have with their children's choices in life. If you're the one that makes him happy, she should be thrilled with you. I love my DIL because she makes my oldest son happy. Maybe he can have a little heart-to-heart with her. It sounds like she needs to "understand" what's going on in HIS life. His life, again. I hope that you can get past her problems without them becoming too much your problems.
 
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