personal Christian prayer request..

[Wildsky]

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I'm not religious, but you can't just pray and wait for things to happen - you have to TRY and do your part as well.

You can't sit back and pray for a paycheck - you have to go out and WORK for it. You can't pray for a job, you have to go out and LOOK for it and apply for it.

 

[seminolewind]

He helps those who help themselves.

 

[Wildsky]

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Thanks Seminole, thats pretty much what I was trying to say in my round about confuse everyone way.

 

[seminolewind]

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Thanks Seminole, thats pretty much what I was trying to say in my round about confuse everyone way.

I understood you, you weren't confusing . I think I reiterated what you said because the fasting part - well I hope this fasting thing isn't suggesting to young ladies that they can solve their problems by going without food. Young girls are so impressionable

 

[HenSpa]

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I'm not religious, but you can't just pray and wait for things to happen - you have to TRY and do your part as well.

You can't sit back and pray for a paycheck - you have to go out and WORK for it. You can't pray for a job, you have to go out and LOOK for it and apply for it.

I don't think anybody said anything about not trying here. Some wrong assumptions are being made. Just because we're praying doesn't mean we're being spiritually or physically lazy. It means we're asking God for His guidance and will to be done in these things, because we put more value in His wisdom than our own. As a result of prayer, what actions should be taken on our part are made clearer; and sometimes God intervenes in other ways...because we asked.

I don't consider your comments to be trolling, which is why I'm addressing this instead of keeping mum. Just difference of opinion, maybe? (We've had some instigators on here recently.) But, for my part, I'm dropping more discussion on. Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree, y'know? We're praying for this woman and her husband...period. That's what the topic is about. So let's get back to it.

 

[rubyv67]

:aww We have tons of problems in our marriage. I too have taken to cracking with frying pans, then felt horrible because we're christians. I agree with wildsky though. I had to step away from what I needed or wanted and really examine what the roots are. It doesn't mean the issues are resolved, but I have more peace knowing I truly tried to do my best. I left his work up to him and took responsibility for my own. I will pray for God to give you the wisdom of Solomon, so you can discern how to deal with it all. God bless you and all the sweet caring people here.

 

[seminolewind]

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Yes. Praying is good, especially for guidance. I feel bad that these people are in a hard spot.

 

[Wildsky]

This is posted on a public forum, so I'll go ahead and put my foot in my mouth - just this ONCE (

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My OWN opinion is that marital problems are NORMALLY - one spouse looking around at someone else, stepping out if you will.

IN my personal opinion, this is a two person problem, praying alone is not going to cut it, in fact posting all over the internet is not doing anything to solve the issue at hand. (might be making one half of pair feel good, but thats not going to fix it either)

BOTH parties (the ones married to each other) need to sit themselves down and figure out what happened, its BOTH of them at fault 90% of the time. Then figure out how to fix it - if BOTH WANT to fix it.

My suggestion would be to turn off the computer, pay your spouse some attention (or lots) and learn to communicate again - and not by email or text messaging, but by TALKING one on one.

Thats MY $1 worth.

 

[Fudgie]

Wildsky I sort of agree with your $1 worth! However, none of us can make a judgement on smom until we know the entire story of what is going on in their life, and we probably won't find out. I don't think she is trying to get out of trying with her husband in her marriage. Sometimes you just need a shoulder to cry on an ear to listen to you and someone to pat you on the back and say......Hey we have been there and done that and I know what you are going through....or not, just someone to be a support beam! Sometimes we just need support, plain and simple. That is all she is asking here, just mere support and prayer.

No one is asking for anyone's guidance, just HEY, pray with me so maybe I can get some strength to overcome what is going on in my marriage. Sometimes by doing that a lightbulb goes on (even for me and I am not the one the thread is about) and you get what the issue is and you can figure out what you need to do to fix it or make the situation better. A lot of times you just need to get it off your chest so you can breathe a deep breath and gather your real issues and go on with life.

That is all that was asked here, just a personal Christian prayer request. So let's take her up on it and pray for their family and everyone elses family here on BYC. We all could use to have a good word put in for us all!

Sorry if I rambled. It just seems like a lot of us are trying to SOLVE her marital problems, not lend support. :aww

edited to add: Well put Amazondoc!!!!!

 

[amazondoc]

For those of you out there who might not feel sympathetic with calls for prayer:

I'm not Christian myself. BUT I see nothing wrong with prayer and/or fasting for someone who is in need of emotional support. IMHO the activities of prayer and fasting for "closeness with God" (or whatever) can be interpreted by the non-religious as essentially the same as positive thinking, mindfulness, meditation, and other mental processes that don't necessarily have any religious overtones at all. I don't think it really matters in the long haul whether one is consciously directing those prayers/thoughts/meditations/whatever towards a specific deity or just towards the cosmos in general. IMHO the activities of prayer/meditation/mindfulness/group bonding/whatever are all very constructive no matter who might or might not be out there listening in. So don't obsess over whether someone interprets their activity as "talking to God" or simply "sending positive thoughts" -- neither one is hurting anybody, and both will at the very least make the person doing them feel good.

Nobody asked for my opinion, but there it is anyway!