It really is just heart breaking for everyone.
Poor Parenting
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Last January I went out with friends and on my way home at 2:30am I found two little ones walking down one of our unlit, dark, desert roads. I pulled over and found the eldest one which was 6 and happened to go to the school I teach at, dressed to teeth in boots, jeans, jacket, nice shirt, and the little 3 year old in pajama shirt, undies, one sock, no shoes and no jacket, it was 22 degrees at that time. I put them in the truck, fired up the heater, and called 911. I told the dispatcher I wasn't far from the substation and that I would meet them there, I knew who the one child was but not where he lived.
It turned out they were left at their grandparents house because the parents went to a wedding and reception. The eldest child decided he wanted to go home and didn't want to leave the little one behind but didn't know where his clothes or shoes were. So they got up and left the grandparents house and were walking home which was about 4 miles cross country but closer to 6 on the road, they had covered over 3 miles already. Part of the roads they walked on were main roads and no one ever pulled over to see why they were walking down the road!
When we got the address for the grandparents finally, from our school custodian letting me in the school, we went back over there and knocked for quite awhile. Those poor people were terrified of what could have happened to the two boys. The doors were all still locked, the eldest had pushed open the window in the room they were staying in and they went out the window!
One of the deputies started in on these elderly grandparents about being irresponsible and I had to step in because there was no way they could have heard these two sneaking out a window that was nowhere near the grandparents bedroom. Once the parents were contacted we found out the dad had shown the eldest how to open the windows at home in case of a fire, so he was very proud he could open a window.
What happened to this toddler is awful, what the mother will have to live with is just as bad. Knowing she wasn't careful to lock up, she was not in a condition to care for her child, and that she will be punished by society and herself more than any court could ever do to her.
It turned out they were left at their grandparents house because the parents went to a wedding and reception. The eldest child decided he wanted to go home and didn't want to leave the little one behind but didn't know where his clothes or shoes were. So they got up and left the grandparents house and were walking home which was about 4 miles cross country but closer to 6 on the road, they had covered over 3 miles already. Part of the roads they walked on were main roads and no one ever pulled over to see why they were walking down the road!
When we got the address for the grandparents finally, from our school custodian letting me in the school, we went back over there and knocked for quite awhile. Those poor people were terrified of what could have happened to the two boys. The doors were all still locked, the eldest had pushed open the window in the room they were staying in and they went out the window!
One of the deputies started in on these elderly grandparents about being irresponsible and I had to step in because there was no way they could have heard these two sneaking out a window that was nowhere near the grandparents bedroom. Once the parents were contacted we found out the dad had shown the eldest how to open the windows at home in case of a fire, so he was very proud he could open a window.
What happened to this toddler is awful, what the mother will have to live with is just as bad. Knowing she wasn't careful to lock up, she was not in a condition to care for her child, and that she will be punished by society and herself more than any court could ever do to her.
What I want to know is how many people passed that little boy without stopped before someone did try to help. Those are the people that should be punished!
I was headed to work 30 minutes later than my regular time a few weeks ago and there was a little boy at the end of our gravel road where it joins the highway, just standing there. I told my daughter that it just didn't look right and we slowed down and asked him if he was okay. At the most I guessed him as a kindergardener. He acted like he wasn't supposed to talk to strangers and just kind of nodded. There were cars coming up behind me so I pulled off to the side of the road. Three cars drove right past that little boy without even stopping! Once they were gone I got out and asked the little boy if he was okay. He said he was waiting for the bus. I asked him if he always waited for the bus there and he said yes. This was a dark corner on a dark morning, but I knew I couldn't just haul this boy off to find out what was going on with him without possibly ending up accused of kidnapping. So, I told him I just wanted to make sure he was okay and then I got back in the car. I told Maddie something still didn't seem right (this was an unlit corner that I didn't think was a bus stop but I wasn't sure).
When I got to work I called the bus company and explained to the woman that I had seen a little boy at our road and something didn't seem right and I wanted to know if that really was a bus stop. I hadn't wanted to start with a call to the Troopers just incase everything was legit. The woman put me on hold when the other line rang then came right back on the phone and asked me where I had seen that boy, the Troopers were on the other line looking for a 4 year old that had walked out of his house when mom wasn't looking! I told her the location and then she hung up on me without getting my name or number!!!!
About 20 minutes later I called the Troopers, told them that I was the one that was on the line with the bus company when they called looking for the little boy and I wanted to make sure they had found the little boy or did they need more info. She very brusquely told me that she couldn't tell me anything right now and to call back in an hour - and then hung up without getting my name or phone number!!!!!
I finally called back an hour later and told them again that I'd been on the phone with the bus company, seen the little boy and wanted to make sure he'd been found or did they need more info. She proceeded to tell me that yes, the little boy had been found about another 1/4 of a mile from where I'd seen him, but if that ever happened again that I needed to call the Troopers and give them my name and phone number and any info I had!!!
I told her that I had tried, but that people had kept hanging up on me in their rush. Then she got a little embarassed and said, "oh, well, the girl you talked to is new and she didn't know better." She also then told me that if it ever happened again and the Troopers wouldn't listen to me to INSIST on giving them all the details I had.
Luckily, that little boy was found safe and sound. He slipped out while Mom was dressing his twin brother and she didn't even know if he was dressed or not.
I was headed to work 30 minutes later than my regular time a few weeks ago and there was a little boy at the end of our gravel road where it joins the highway, just standing there. I told my daughter that it just didn't look right and we slowed down and asked him if he was okay. At the most I guessed him as a kindergardener. He acted like he wasn't supposed to talk to strangers and just kind of nodded. There were cars coming up behind me so I pulled off to the side of the road. Three cars drove right past that little boy without even stopping! Once they were gone I got out and asked the little boy if he was okay. He said he was waiting for the bus. I asked him if he always waited for the bus there and he said yes. This was a dark corner on a dark morning, but I knew I couldn't just haul this boy off to find out what was going on with him without possibly ending up accused of kidnapping. So, I told him I just wanted to make sure he was okay and then I got back in the car. I told Maddie something still didn't seem right (this was an unlit corner that I didn't think was a bus stop but I wasn't sure).
When I got to work I called the bus company and explained to the woman that I had seen a little boy at our road and something didn't seem right and I wanted to know if that really was a bus stop. I hadn't wanted to start with a call to the Troopers just incase everything was legit. The woman put me on hold when the other line rang then came right back on the phone and asked me where I had seen that boy, the Troopers were on the other line looking for a 4 year old that had walked out of his house when mom wasn't looking! I told her the location and then she hung up on me without getting my name or number!!!!
About 20 minutes later I called the Troopers, told them that I was the one that was on the line with the bus company when they called looking for the little boy and I wanted to make sure they had found the little boy or did they need more info. She very brusquely told me that she couldn't tell me anything right now and to call back in an hour - and then hung up without getting my name or phone number!!!!!
I finally called back an hour later and told them again that I'd been on the phone with the bus company, seen the little boy and wanted to make sure he'd been found or did they need more info. She proceeded to tell me that yes, the little boy had been found about another 1/4 of a mile from where I'd seen him, but if that ever happened again that I needed to call the Troopers and give them my name and phone number and any info I had!!!
Luckily, that little boy was found safe and sound. He slipped out while Mom was dressing his twin brother and she didn't even know if he was dressed or not.
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At that hour of the morning, I can imagine that not many people were on the road. The are the child was in is mostly retail, bars and restaurants, which were all closed. I really feel for the guy that stopped and the one that hit the child.
I can imagine the mother will regret this the rest of her life. But....
where the heck was this child while she was out until 2 am and if with a "responsible" adult, who the heck would let her take a child with her if she was drunk enough to not lock the door properly or hear her child get up??????
That poor person that hit this child will have nightmares the rest of their life.
where the heck was this child while she was out until 2 am and if with a "responsible" adult, who the heck would let her take a child with her if she was drunk enough to not lock the door properly or hear her child get up??????
That poor person that hit this child will have nightmares the rest of their life.
That's a horrible story. if you took out the drunk part though there wouldn't be anything but sympathy for the mother. It's a shame what can happen when someone is under the influence of drugs. Running over a child would be something I don't think I would ever recover from.
I think that would be the hardest part of being a cop. Seeing damaged kids in abuse situations or car accidents. That would just tear me up.
I think that would be the hardest part of being a cop. Seeing damaged kids in abuse situations or car accidents. That would just tear me up.
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Hi beak! I read in that article that the mother has been arrested before for some kind of disruptive behavior which is why my sympathy for her went out the window.
It's scary what kids will do. When we moved into a new apartment on campus at a major university the first thing we asked about was if we could have a higher lock put on the doors or childproof locks. Campus advisors and maintainance said it was against fire code and policy to alter any existing structures. Ridiculous considering this was family housing.
Our 2 year old daughter had already figured out the deadbolt and was opening and closing the doors on her own by the end of the first day. The second morning we were there I woke up at 4am for some strange reason. I walked out into the living room to find the front door wide open and my 2 yr old walking down the path. I asked where she was going and she said "to playground" which was right in front of our apartment. Needless to say we went out that morning and purchased 2 baby gates to lock down the doors as much as possible.
When we recently moved into our new home it bothered me that the kids bedrooms were on one side and ours on the other. This left the front and back doors in between our bedrooms and I didn't feel comfortable with it. We put in an alarm system just to let me know if the kids' doors AND windows were being opened. They are now 5 and 7 yrs old. You can never be too careful and I fully intend to continue to use the alarms throughout their teenage years!
Our 2 year old daughter had already figured out the deadbolt and was opening and closing the doors on her own by the end of the first day. The second morning we were there I woke up at 4am for some strange reason. I walked out into the living room to find the front door wide open and my 2 yr old walking down the path. I asked where she was going and she said "to playground" which was right in front of our apartment. Needless to say we went out that morning and purchased 2 baby gates to lock down the doors as much as possible.
When we recently moved into our new home it bothered me that the kids bedrooms were on one side and ours on the other. This left the front and back doors in between our bedrooms and I didn't feel comfortable with it. We put in an alarm system just to let me know if the kids' doors AND windows were being opened. They are now 5 and 7 yrs old. You can never be too careful and I fully intend to continue to use the alarms throughout their teenage years!
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Congdon the teenaged years are when they really get into mischief so YEAH keep the alarms on!!!! It would have saved me from having my Pastor pick up my intoxicated 16 year old out streaking at midnight with nothing but his sneakers on.
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