possible son in law type issues....

[Kansaseq]

I think you are right on. I would tell her quietly what you think of him, and what your concerns are. It may take some time, but she may come around.

 

[kla37]

Better to tell her now. Wish I had had someone to tell me before I married a jacka$$. You did the right thing, and it IS true. If his behavior is that poor in front of others, then it is probably much worse in private. Keep up the great work, and stick with it.

 

[Boyd]

daughter got home. For once I am glad that my straightforward approach worked. She was dropping him off because she said no one is disrespectful in her house, her dads house etc. As far as she is concerned he isn't welcome to come to (my) house until he can straighten up his act.

I was slightly dumbfounded. I figured she'd be mad at me for basically threatening to dismantle him from limb to orifice if he didn't find some respect coming out of his pie hole. I told her I totally agreed. I also let her know that if he treated his folks that way, he'd treat you that way. And since he's 21, he ought to know better. Honestly, the guy was so thick I don't think he realized how close he was to breaking my picture window on his way to the curb. My daughter did, that's why she suggested the "walk" lol.

I didn't apologize for my actions towards him, just that I got upset and caused a scene. She understands

I love my girls. She told me that she will NOT put up with that kind of behavior and there isn't many chances for this guy left.

I hate to throw stones (glass houses and all) but I hope he either straightens up or daughter moves on. My favorite saying still applies.. Jail isn't too bad, it wouldn't be the end of the world to have to go back for 3-5

 

[kla37]

Good to hear! I sincerely hope your daughter moves on. Sounds like she knows good, acceptable behavior from bad.

 

[redhen]

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Boooyd! NO going back to jail...

 

[Katy]

Great!

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

Try not to kill him, Boyd. He's young and stupid. A good strong "come to Jesus" talk and you might be able to rehabilitate him. Some puppies are trainable. Clearly his parents didn't do a very good job with him.
Plus, I don't think you get internet in jail and we'd miss you here.

 

[Boyd]

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the sad thing is, I know his parents.. very well.. my x wife's cousin/uncle

 

[savingdogs]

We don't get to pick our men for our daughters, be glad yours is using her head. I'm not sure mine is. It makes me gnash my teeth but she is a big girl and needs to make her own mistakes because hearing my opinions has not changed her mind, in fact, she defends him so hotly that we don't get along well anymore and is constantly singing his praises. I have resorted to seeing her a lot less or not at all and hoping he isn't around forever. But it isn't my life to ruin, it is hers. They have a baby and I'm actually happy they are not married. Never thought I'd hear myself saying that. Be glad your daughter is seeing the light so early on.....

 

[Sootsie]

i wish my dad had told me what he really thought of my ex's before i married maybe then i wouldnt have needed to get divorced from the pair of wasters. the only thing i dont regret are my children, Good on you Boyd sounds like you raised sensible daughters who know the value of love and respect not just of you but themselves.