question about kids today..

[The Chicken Lady]

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More young guys need leaders like you. Logical consequences, along with strong family bonds and plenty of love are the way to go with kids. Loving your kids doesn't mean sparing discipline. It means setting the bar high and doing everything you can to help them to reach your expectations of success and behavior.

Our country needs more manners and overall classiness, especially in public. We've let ourselves go.

 

[debilorrah]

I think you are right - so many parents choose the wrong battles to fight instead of the ones that matter... Manners, being polite, respecting everyone.

 

[redhen]

IMO..ALL battles count....you CANT let a child get away with being disrespectful/swearing at home and then think when he walks out your front door he will be a proper person in society...it ALL starts at home!...if you dont teach them....noone will!...i have seen this 100 x's....if a child cant respect his mother/father at home...good luck in society kid!...i KNOW kids will be kids...but come on...they need to learn from US!...swearing in your home and swearing with his buddies are 2 totally differant things...you cant control what he does/says with his friends...BUT you CAN control what happens in your own house..because that IS where their basic foundation starts...in your home...

 

[mamaKate]

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Thanks for the history! My dad (born in 1919) used to tell similar stories. He had baby mommas scattered all over the U.S. and Europe. His mom died when he was 4 and he was pretty much on his own after that. Some kids and adults have always behaved badly, it's human nature. I agree that you have the right to make your home a sanctuary and not permit your values to be trampled.

 

[Chicken Boo]

It is your house. There are certain allowances you make when you have visitors with different ways of doing things to be polite. Allowing a minor to smoke and to act disrespectfully to you and your family are not in that category. If he is to ever realize that his parents are bad examples, he needs to see good examples. You would be doing him a huge favor by expecting better out of him while he is in your home.

They were rude to you by allowing their son to behave in such a poor manner.

My DH just asked what I am typing about, and I filled him in on the discussion. He agrees with my comments 100%.

 

[theOEGBman]

Is it normal? Yeah, it is. Do I do that? No, sure dont! My momma and daddy raised me right, sorry. Cussing was never allowed in my house, we werent even allowed to say butt! Its disgusting what goes on now-a-days, but it wont stop unless the parents step up. Hmmm, sounds JUST like my cousin though. 16, curses all the time, smokes non stop, dropped out of school for a while and my aunt doesnt care one bit. God definitely blessed me with amazing parents.

 

[redhen]

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[theOEGBman]

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Is that for me? Haha, thanks!

 

[Linda in San Diego]

My house?, we have a bunch of kool kids - or freaks, depends on your view. LOL - They all are band geeks 15 - 19 - 22 year olds. They choose what they want to do, say and watch, but they would rather not do, say or watch things that we don't appove of. My kids (take the term loosely) were shown by example - save those cuss words until you really need them - and if I ever launched an expletive (and I have) it was well placed and met with shock and awe.

In my classroom, I have a bunch of kool kids - unfortunately some parents have different standards and expectaions than I have. But if I hear a single cuss word I am all over it, there are better ways to express yourself - save the bad words for when you need them.

Your house, your relative - set the rules and insist that visitors follow them. Adult, preAdult or kid - you have expectations and those are your house rules.

IMHO

 

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

After what I have seen on the playgrounds around here. I have to admit that I am scared for the future of the country at times.
I recently witnessed a girl holding her own brother down on the ground while a group of kids kicked him. And these kids are in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL!

And some of the stories my sister tells me about the kids in her 4th grade class. **shudder**

Some kids these days loose respect for parents, teachers, each other and themselves so fast. Even faster when they have parents that allow that type of behavior.

They would no longer be allowed in my home either. And heaven forbid my daughter EVER try crap like I have seen/heard with me.