Question in Parade Magazine...

[redhen]

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[redhen]

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Thats how i feel.... i see no reason to DENY your wife access to your e-mail unless you have something to hide. Maybe i'm paranoid though...

 

[equine chick]

I think it is a matter of trust. My dh does not have my pw and I don't have his, if it got to the point where he was nosing in my email, it would really bother me. All because he trusts me. I have nothing to hide. It's kinda like him picking up a phone while I'm talking to my bf. We have nothing to hide but it is private conversation.

 

[debilorrah]

We have each others passwords simply because FB is the only way to get ahold of much of his family. My BYC account is the only way anyone would know if anything happened to me, and my email is the only way he would know how to get a hold of my friends.

 

[dewey]

I would not put up with expecting to be able to check my calls or texts, or my wallet, or anything like that, either, lol.

 

[DuckLady]

We know each other's passwords and guess what? We trust each other enough not to use them.

I have all passwords to everything written down in a safe deposit box. If anything happened to us, they would be important for family to know.

 

[redhen]

Yep... Same here. I have a book with them all written down. His and mine. Its just never been an issue.

 

[Dunkopf]

Never been an issue. I trust my DW. She has my PW. I'm sure she told me hers but I'm not interested in her stuff. Only ones I don't want knowing my PW is the kids. Don't need them screwing my computer up or ordering something by accident.

 

[sheaviance1]

My hubby is in the don't know how to turn the computer on, so no, he doesn't have my password.

I am in the camp that if one is going to snoop, they will find something to get bent out of shape over, even if it is harmless. If you are looking for trouble, you will find it, so I don't look. I wouldn't mind him having my password, but I do enjoy that there are places I can go and things I can do that are private. I think if you can have your privacy in a marriage, your marriage overall is healthier. My hubby is my best friend, but we don't have to be in each other's pockets all the time. I absolutely LOVE it when he comes home from a hunting/fishing trip with his buddies with dried up tears running down his face from laughing so hard at something I will never know. I also love it when it is obvious he has been ranting to someone about me. First, I didn't have to hear it, second, usually, by the time he is done, whatever it was doesn't seem as bad anymore, and we can talk it over without getting eleven foot tall and bulletproof.

 

[ranchhand]

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Same here, but they're in a file cabinet. We're both open- the only limit is bodily functions, unless it's an emergency! But I knew him, and he knew me very well before we made a commitment to marry for life.

Oddly enough, just this evening, we discussed people posting rather negative info about their partner/spouse online- it won't ever happen here. We talk it out. And NOT on the internet.