*rant* Please tell me im not the only 1....

[SpringChickens]

I'm sorry you're going through this. My only words of wisdom are to communicate, and to talk through your problems. Even if he yells, still try to keep an even tone and reason with him. You'll be much more effective if you don't let your emotions rule.

Is he physically or emotionally abusive? If he is, I would say RUN! Far and fast!! Particularly for your daughter's sake.

 

[BellLisamo]

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No hes not abusive, just inconsiderate for the most part.... selfish if you will

 

[ScoobyRoo]

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he would never go for that. he thinks that all things can be resolved on his own....


highly doubtful if you ask me

I'm with you. My husband is the same. I myself just told him last night that we need to communicate in a civil way. I truely think he is very nervous about this economy thing (we are self employed, work for new homes and we know that is slow) I am working another job and the roles have been reversed. He hates doing what we Mothers do on a daily basis. He would much rather me be home with the kids and himself working. I think he is being hard on himself because he is old fashioned and believes the wife/mother should stay home while the husband brings home the bacon. That is my dilemma of the week.

 

[Im4Eggcellence]

Sounds like it's time to seriously consider counseling. That's no way to go through life - and speaking from experience, not much fun for a child to watch either.

If you can't afford counseling, I know couples that say Dr. Phil's Relationship Rescue series was very helpful.

Good luck - I hope your situation improves.

 

[BellLisamo]

like i said, he would never go to counseling. he said hes understand if id leave him. but that was like 4 weeks ago. well, its still the same. not much has changed.... i just am not strong enough to leave and its not fair to the kids to have to move back to my moms. My poor daughter has lived like 4 different places now

 

[sunnychooks]

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Then go alone. You need to help YOU. Counceling will help you understand your options and how best to help your daughter.
Please consider it.

 

[BellLisamo]

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Then go alone. You need to help YOU. Counceling will help you understand your options and how best to help your daughter.
Please consider it.

Can the kids go or not? Who would i find to babysit? I seriously have NO ONE but my husband. My mom lives 3 hours away. My son still doesnt like people he doesnt know....

 

[gabrielle1976]

Im sorry ,
I dont have much advice for you except , love and live the best you can regardless of who is in youre world as you can control only youreself and no one else.
Listening to my sister and my best friend and other women though most the time Im glad Im single , even as a single mother. I woudnt want everything in my home and everything I do or dont do to be judged condemned and ridicualed and my son though he will have issues im shure becuase his dad left and never has any intrest in meeting him is better off I think then liveing with two people that fight constantly ect.

 

[mrsengeseth]

It might be beneficial for the kids too, especially if they see or are having to bear some of it themselves.

 

[BellLisamo]

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my daughter is 4, she should go, but my son is only 11 months, no need for him to go.

my daughters biological dad signed his rights away when she was like 2 1/2, she hasnt seen him since.