Yes, exactly! I was just 17 when my first son was born, and I wanted so badly to show the world that I wouldn't be just another teen mom. I worked, went to school, and cared for him. 4 years later, his sister came along, and then I became a single mom. I went through EMT school and was working 24 hour shifts on an ambulance, while still maintaining the house and trying to be the best mom i could to a 4 year old and an infant.
Then I met my now husband, and our lives changed for the better. I was able to get off the ambulance and be home with our kids. But that urge to, I don't know, prove myself, never went away and I always felt like I needed to go above and beyond to keep things in order and neat all the time.
But not after we lost our baby. I still keep things clean, but other things are more important. They're a little old for tea parties these days, but I'll take an evening of goofy conversation on the porch with my family any day. The floors can wait.