Reliving the KIDS issue

[rodriguezpoultry]

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I have to agree with this. There is one thing though....


I assume she's allowed out late at night? Enforce the "children" rules again. In bed by 9PM. Wake up in time for her class. Taking away her nightlife and she'll be seeking her freedom outside of your doors. Be the overbearing parent. Only feed healthy food in healthy portions. Make her life miserable by keeping her "safe" from things.

 

[agnes_day]

that is good too!
maybe i should send my latest pride and joy to stay with you guys for a while.

 

[lockedhearts]

Well, I moved out before I was out of school. But when I did live at home, I worked part time, and still did chores and my own laundry.

I did not pay rent when I worked and lived at home, but I paid my Car Payment and Car Insurance and paid for my fun.

 

[Rusty Hills Farm]

debiraymond wrote:

Rusty Hills Farm wrote:

You want her to grow up? Adults pay rent. When they don't, they get evicted.

Rusty

Like I said, consider this is your own child. Easier said than done, especially in this economy. And in this area the unemployment rate is 17.5%. Which leave me torn, knowing we need to stick to our guns. ACK!!! How do we tell a kid to pull up a cardboard box to the curb??

I joined the Marines at 17 because I couldn't find any work either. As for my own 2, well my son found his own first job when he was 14 and my daughter did the same at 15. She's got her teaching certificate and is so proud of the fact that neither her mother nor I helped pay for it. Now, that was HER choice, but I've got to admit that her choices make me proud of her.

As a Marine, I dealt with a lot of recruits over the years who joined up to get a roof over their heads and 3 squares because mom and dad had kicked them out. Almost without exception, they were lazy bums when they stepped off that bus. We taught them to grow up. It's easier to do precisely because you're not their parent. And actually, it's a kindness too. There is always a place in this world for hard workers but lazy bums too often wind up behind bars....or worse.

As always, JMO.


Rusty​

 

[Britney]

DSD is dear step daughter correct or no? Where is her mother? Is her mother a reliable source for support? I am having trouble using the icons and quotes, either they work or they don't. Darn computer. LOL

 

[QuinnP]

lucky you----you dont have to stare at a jar of ashes with the words BABY GIRL written on it.

 

[WriterofWords]

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Yes she is lucky, but that doesn't give the living child free rein to mooch and live off of mommy and daddy. It is sad to lose a child, I feel for you, but I don't think that if your child had lived you would have wanted them to be a leech incapable of supporting themselves because they don't want to. The OP has no reason to feel guilty or put up with DSD's behavior.

 

[QuinnP]

boy is that ever true!

 

[QuinnP]

this is a bad day. Susannah's Angel day is the 11th of April.

please forgive me

 

[gritsar]

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Show her there's plenty of jobs available....in the military.