Reliving the KIDS issue

[QuinnP]

is there a Job Center nearby?

 

[LarryPQ]

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Like I said, consider this is your own child. Easier said than done, especially in this economy. And in this area the unemployment rate is 17.5%. Which leave me torn, knowing we need to stick to our guns. ACK!!! How do we tell a kid to pull up a cardboard box to the curb??

You need to consider the economy too! That means YOU have to watch out for your finances. As an adult, SHE needs to understand this as well.

 

[debilorrah]

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She has been several times, just never gets off her fanny long enough to lose the 15 lbs needed to get in. Believe me, we have done all of this - bills, pay rent or be in school full time. We gave the kids a break on the full time status because it was near impossible to get a full load if you weren't alredy an exisitng student. But there is no excuse for next semester. She has already shown that she won't follow through. She has been told multiple time to clean up the house, etc.

The kicker was there was an unopened pack of cigarettes on the desk last night. Got up this morning and half of them were gone. OH HELL NO! We are NOT gonna support that habit for ya! We will see what happens tonight. I know we are both at our wits end with her.

 

[Britney]

Is her biological mother in the picture?

 

[debilorrah]

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I didn't take your post badly at all. Kate is right though, just because she is alive, doesn't mean she can mooch - she is almost 21 years old and hasn't had a job or been in school in 3 years. And if she continues she won't have much of a life at all.

 

[saddina]

Knowing how things have gone for her, and the situation with her toddler brother, I'd be considering a small amount of slack. To live here she'd:
Need to pull down a B or better in her remaining class, and enroll for the next semester the day it opened.
Be cooking and scrubbing (hand her the flylady lists)
Volenteer when school isn't in session
Come up with a plan, not a grand one, but some sort of plan for the next 2 years.

Since her mother wasn't much in the raising department, she may take longer to get going on life, and it may not occur to her that things need cleaning (my cousin is much the same, unless there's mold she doesn't "see" dirt, she's used to it).

All of the "teen" jobs are gone here too, when Winco built a new store over 10,000 applications for less than a hundred jobs.

 

[debilorrah]

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If in the picture you mean able to help out - no. Sara stays with her mom once in a while only to take care of her little brother (2 years old, not the same dad). The mom is a long story, so here are some bullet points

On drugs
6 kids she has never raised past the age of 5 years old
Nuttier than a fruitcake

 

[debilorrah]

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That's how it is here too Saddi. Sizzler opened with 125 positions and 2900 people showed up. No, she was not one of them either!!!

We have been down the road of you clean you do this you do that. It is time for her to have a big fat wake up call. tried to get her to put together a plan too. No such luck.

 

[saddina]

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That's how it is here too Saddi. Sizzler opened with 125 positions and 2900 people showed up. No, she was not one of them either!!!

We have been down the road of you clean you do this you do that. It is time for her to have a big fat wake up call. tried to get her to put together a plan too. No such luck.

You wanna send her to me for a week?

 

[debilorrah]

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That's how it is here too Saddi. Sizzler opened with 125 positions and 2900 people showed up. No, she was not one of them either!!!

We have been down the road of you clean you do this you do that. It is time for her to have a big fat wake up call. tried to get her to put together a plan too. No such luck.

You wanna send her to me for a week?

Well since we refuse to pay for transportation for her...... She gets a $10 bus card, no cash. I even stopped letting her recycle the coke cans. We take all the good food into our room and lock it up. We have made her life what should be a living hell, but it ain't helping.