Rude Behavior, I'm Perplexed

[PineappleMama]

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Times like that I tend to say "Rude Much?" loud enough for them to hear... sometimes I'll get a GTH look, other times a bit of an embarrassed look, but mostly they just tromp on by. But considering I almost always have my kids with me I do NOT want them thinking that's perfectly acceptable so I will comment.

 

[The Chicken People]

I remember 18 years ago as I returned to my hometown in Oklahoma to bury my infant son and we had a funeral procession and people not only pulled over but this little old man got out of his car and held his hat over his heart!! Made me cry the kindness I felt from a stranger on that sorrow filled day! Manners have gone by the wayside in todays society! We just have to keep teaching the ones we love to keep using them! Kids, grandkids etc. pass on good manners!

 

[PineappleMama]

Not sure, but seems like maybe it's all connected with the "I Got Mine" attitude that's prevailing across the board.

 

[yomama]

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I agree. I am in constant pain from bilateral hip displaysia. Does that give me the right to be a you know what to everyone I see? Heck no. I think that we are all in control of our actions. Sometimes, yes, it is harder for us to say please and thank you, maybe because we are having a very bad day, but we are still capable. Under normal circumstances, there really is no reason to be rude. (By normal I mean not being in a situation where seconds count or someone could die type situation) I live out in the country, where we have alot of old timer farmers, and we also have alot of newer generations. I'm right in the middle. Most of the time, the only folks that will wave to you out here, that don't know you, are the farmers. I can always count on them waving back. Do I wave to everyone I pass, the ones I do know, yes. The one's I don't know, sometimes. Just depends on where I am at, or if they, or I'm, even paying attention. However, I don't think I've ever waved to a farmer on a tractor that hasn't waved back. And you know those guys are probably sore, tired or grumpy from working hard.

In regards to people at Wal Mart.

Yes I do shop there, because we are on a very tight budget, and it helps. But OMG! do you think one person could wave a "thanks" when you let them cross the parking lot into the store? I always make sure I wave to both sides, when they let me cross, even when it is in a designated crossing area. I refuse to go shopping there on the weekends though. I swear that is when all the worst people head on over to that store.

My girls have had "please and thank yous" drilled into their little heads since they could talk. Recently, when we took them trick or treating, with out even thinking about it, we would ask them after every house, "did you say thank you?"

They were getting so annoyed with us, but it is just habit. I will not have my little girls be known as the rude kids. I have seen them in action, though, and most of the time, they do remember their please and thank yous.

My little story about rudeness. I had a Ford F150 4x4 pickup a few years back. I was heading back from physical therapy, when I noticed one of my tires was flat. I pulled over into a heavily populated shopping complex parking lot. Kind of like a strip mall type thing. So, here I am sitting on the curb, on my cell phone, staring at my flat tire. Of course, the first person I call is my husband, just habit. Then I called AAA, since we have coverage. Meanwhile, about a half dozen people, mostly men, walk by checking out the situation. Not one asked if I needed help. And it was obvious that I had a flat tire. So, my husband shows up around the same time that the AAA guy did. As the AAA guys was changing the tire, one of the people that had walked by me before, came over. Turns out, he knew my husband. He said, and I quote "Oh, well if I had known it was your wife, I would of tried to help. I wasn't going to come change that tire, those things are hard!" Boy, there's a catch, huh? the AAA guy did say that my type of truck was hard to change a flat on, but still. I didn't expect anyone to change it for me, just to ask if I needed any help would of been nice. Man, I sure hope chivalry doesn't die all together, but it sure is starting to look that way.

 

[PineappleMama]

^Been there... seen tons of people walk by... here I am jumping up and down on the dang + tire tool trying to loosen the dang lug nuts and not getting anywhere... finally one stopped and I said I just need help loosening the dern things... so he did that and I said thanks and I finished it from there... took him all of two minutes, no dirty hands, and this was a scrawny young guy... the older "gentlemen" who were brawnier just walked right past. Did I mention I was HUGE pregnant at the time with DS??

But also have times when I've gotten more help that I could possibly need or ask for... above and beyond... so there are still SOME folks out there passing on those manners... I still have faith that we humans CAN live up to our potential... just have to want to.

 

[boykin2010]

i live on a narrrow dirt road and you wouldnt believe the people that dont slow down so they can pass safely... other people just expect you to swerve almost in the ditch to let them by. almost got into a wreck the other day because i couldnt get over and speeding maniac came past me and about hit me by like inches!

 

[Orchid]

This thread makes "Minnesota nice" not quite so annoying.

"After you"

"No, after you"

"No really, I insist"

It makes four-way stop signs VERY interesting.

 

[PineappleMama]

^Heheh... been there. No you go, no you... except you can't actually hear each other... so maybe a hand signal... and then you'll go AND they'll go and then you both hit the breaks and the whole thing starts over.

But then I've also been at a four way and seen people blow right on through without even pulling a S.T.O.P. (slow to observe police, rather than a full stop) n'mind checking for other cars and if you honk at them they'll flip YOU the bird for being rude... wtdevil is THAT?

 

[herfrds]

welsummer I said nothing to them. If I hadn't taken a step back they would have walked right into me.
It really ruined my good mood.

I had gone out of town for some training. I ate at a fast food place and was leaving just as 3 guys were coming in. One guy opened the door and held it open for me, I thanked him, the second guy brushed by. Now the third guy really stood out in my mind.
He looked like the type you would meet in a dark alley and he would scare the daylights out of you.
He held the door open too. I looked him right in the eye, smiled and said," Thank you very much."
It floored him.

Today I had a Dr. appointment. Walking in the clinic I could see reflected in the glass door a young woman hurrying to get her infant out of the sleet. I grabbed the door and stepped aside so she could go first. It surprised her, but she did thank me.

It is not so hard to have manners.

 

[WriterofWords]

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New Mexico nice:

Stop sign? What stop sign!!!