She "dumped" her ferret on us. "Rant"

[Ferngully]

We lost power...rrrrr....anyway..

Just got back from buying garbage bags, You all know what for....lol ....Ferrit has a new cage, litter box, food dishes, and 2 water bottles and a blanket. I am going to send out messages to her myspace that her things are on the doorstep. She has no house key. Never has. After loosing a few thousand dollars worth of jewelry and items, and kids christmas presents in the past. Not happening again.

Agreed, she is out of here, as is the ferret.

Dh just brought home a truck load of wood to build a big coop and run for us to get large chickens for eggs, so our world is getting back on track.

The funny thing is yes we always listen to our dogs, they have never been wrong once. And the other 2 kids see it all plain as day what is going on, even the autistic 9 year old gets it. Sad very sad.

It's good to know in a sad way alot of people have atleast one family member who just doesn't run with the program. What doesn't kill us, will make us stronger.

I am feeling better now with the ranting and reaffirmation from others that "no" this is the end of the road. I am going to cross the bridge of no more and not think twice about my decisions.

Hopefully soon I will get to post pics of our own coop. We did make a little one for our silkies ( a castle with a draw bridge, mote is next, and oh yeah the turrets for the top). Thanks all for your support.

 

[conny63malies]

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Are you going to install cute little plastic cannons or guns on the turrets too?

 

[BeardedChick]

I am feeling better now with the ranting and reaffirmation from others that "no" this is the end of the road. I am going to cross the bridge of no more and not think twice about my decisions.

I'm rooting for you!

 

[Ferngully]

oooo canons hadn't thought of that, but son is having us build him a sniper tower so he can sit out in it to keep watch over the chickens with a pellet gun.

Bet I can find all those things and more at a hobby store.

 

[onthespot]

New year, new leaf. New Year's is a perfect time to lower the boom. I have you in my thoughts. Do what you must, cry if you must. Even if it makes you feel bad, you are doing what is right. I am very sorry you are going through this, and for her too, but there really can only be one outcome, the sooner the better for ALL involved. Huge support and a hug from California here.... STAY STRONG!

 

[Nikki28]

I don't have children so I can not relate but I have been watching my friend deal with her kid since they moved in to their house 6 months ago.
My friend (who is also my neighbor) Has a 19 year old son who has mental issues and is hyper sexual. He creeps me out he is always walking around staring at things. I caught him staring at my other neighbors 12 year old daughter ...lets just say it was obvious he was excited about it. I warned the girls parents about it already and told her to stay away from him my boyfriend and I even bought her an air horn for when she is playing outside. The scary thing is he has been given the okay by psychologists to live a normal life out in the real world. Uh creepy. He takes advantage of being labeled with a 'mental illness' and walks all over his mom. He will be 20 in 2 months and is getting $1,800 a month from the government from his and his deceased fathers social security. It scares me to think of him having his own place unsupervised. My friends other kid is wonderful and polite and she has tried everything to help him I mean what would you do if it was your son that was like that?
It has definitely reaffirmed my decision not to have children.

I think you made the right choice with your daughter you have done all you can as a mother it is up to her now and I truely hope she gets her act together at some point. I wish you luck and

...have fun building that coop!

 

[jvls1942]

just remember, this is a one time thing.. IF you buckle, you have lost your clout and can never try it again..

If you follow through, I guarantee that you will find a new and strong respect from your daughter.. she will finally realize that you mean what you say. and you will feel more in command, also..

tough love rules !!!!!!!

 

[Robin'sBrood]

Ferngully, is your dd using drugs? The behavior and the partying sure makes me wonder. And a lot of people with mental problems self medicate themselves with drugs/alcohol. So sad. But after watching nearly every Intervention episode there is, I've seen that no matter how much a parent loves and tries to help a troubled child, it's got to be the child's decision to ask for help when he/she truly WANTS to be helped.

As hard as I know it's going to be for you, I think you are smart to go ahead and take the tough love action now. She may have to fall on her face in a deep pit of mud before she realizes that it's her life and she has to make better choices. Hopefully she'll learn that lesson sooner than later.

Oh, one last thing... pregnant again? Where is the first child, or did she miscarry/terminate the pregnancy? I worry about the poor, innocent baby if she is pregnant.

 

[The Chicken Lady]

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This is so right. What you are doing here is earning respect. If she needs to, she can spend the night at a local homeless shelter. It might be an eye-opening learning experience for her. There are places for her to go. DON'T CAVE.

You go, mom!

 

[justusnak]

Ferngully....I can say...Been there done that...but with my son. He too has "mental issues" His problem is he is slow, and has a hard time reading. He CAN read, just doesnt want to try hard enough. Anyways...he came to my just over 2 years ago telling me his girlfriend is preggers. GREAT! Just what the world needs..another unplanned baby. Now, dont get me wrong...I love my grandson..he is just the sweetest boy, under the circumstances. Anyways....when she told her parents she was PG, they kicked her out...and we took them in. Mistake number one. My son was not working...she was PG, and they BOTH are lazy. So I put both of them to work around the farm....and DH made our son go job hunting every day. I took the girl to get signed up for wick...so she could get medical assistance. I wanted a healthy grandbaby. After 2 months our son finally found work. 3 weeks into his job, we decided it was time they get a small effeciency apartment in town. Now, our "town" is a small country farm town, most everyone is related in one way or another. DH and I get them settled in, we pay first months rent, get 200$ of groceries and buy a few household items they needed to get started. It wasnt long, the baby came early, son quit his job, they were evicted. The moved to her familys home for a while, then found an apartment. Then back to her family, then to OK to my oldest sons home, then back to her family, then here again! When I finally helped them the last time, I was loading them out the door and told them.....this is it, last time you will ever live here. Time to grow up. My son had the gall to turn around and look me in the eyes and say....yeah right mom...like you would let us live on the streets. Well...guess what...they called a month later, said they were evicted again..and needed a place to stay. NOT HERE! So, my son said...I guess I will go look for some boxes, and we will just live under the bridge. I coldly said....dress warm its gonna get cold tonight.... and hung up. IM DONE! My grandson is 2 1/2 now...she left my son, THANK GOODNESS...and they neither one work, just float from friend to friend....mooching. I will NOT let them back in my house. You have to be strong...its hard..and I have cried for my grandson many nights..and will for a long time I am sure...but..be strong. If I can do it...you can too...everyone around me said... " oh, you will let them back in, you have a soft backbone" Yeah well...I showed them, and these "kids" will have to grow up. Good luck....be strong..and if ya need to talk, PM me.