She roasted the chicks! IM SO ANGRY

[watersoflethe]

eh
i dont like kids with animals
never a good combination
i think parents who try to get kids pets to teach them "responsiblity" is being stupid. most of those animals end up neglected and dying.
responsibility is taught by "good" parenting not by raising pets.

i can totally understand your frustration. my house doesn't have any young kids but we do get guests with young kids.

once i had kids that went into my brother's room and started playing with our hamster that was in a hamster ball. they THREW the ball up against the wall. i walked in on them doing it. i yelled at them and NONE of them had sympathy for the poor animal. none of the their parents offered an apology as well. my hamster had a bloody nose that wouldn't stop (i'm assuming from internal bleeding) and died that night in a lot of pain.

and i raise a netherland dwarf that is disabled. she was born with her back legs underdeveloped so she can't use it. she drags herself and gets around just fine. once kids came over to my house and i had newly born kittens in a room. i left my bunny in the hallway for just 30 seconds while going to kick the children out of the kitten room. i come back to them trying to push my poor rabbit off the STAIRS with their feet. she can't even WALK properly. she's also this tiny thing less than 2 pounds. I got so ticked that i didn't care what their parents thought of me i went around and LOCKED Every single room in the house that had an animal in it.

btw these aren't really young kids but all elementary age


ARGH frustration with kids and animals. making me HATE kids

anyways (sorry i was venting too)...i TOTALLY understand where you are coming from. i really hope your silkie eggs hatch well. please post pictures when they do
i'm excited to see them

 

[Yardbirds286]

The way I see it, the parents and the kids are to blame for accidents happening. Kids need parents for a reason. They make really dumb decisions all the time. Their needs to be accountability for the kids, but also shame on the parents for not having control over what happens under their own roof. I hope your new babies hatch healthy, and that lessons were learned from this sad incident. Much luck to you.

 

[peachlover]

Quote:
Sounds like you have had bad experiences with little monsters, but you are wrong about "never a good combination, and being stupid." Stupid is passing up the opportunity to teach, and the combination of kids and animals is the perfect opportunity. It is also a great lesson in death. It is time to plant some good seeds and not grow weeds. Get your little ones some animals and teach them some responsibility and the wonders of life.

 

[Yardbirds286]

Quote:
Sounds like you have had bad experiences with little monsters, but you are wrong about "never a good combination, and being stupid." Stupid is passing up the opportunity to teach, and the combination of kids and animals is the perfect opportunity. It is also a great lesson in death. It is time to plant some good seeds and not grow weeds. Get your little ones some animals and teach them some responsibility and the wonders of life.

Well said.

 

[FluffyColor]

Wow. Horrible story. I can't believe your sister. She's lucky to still be alive. If my little brother did that, he'd get a real good

I totally feel your pain on the parents! My mom was like that for a time, but she had a brain cancer at the moment. It's now pretty much gone for good.

My mom would get my brother fries and not allow him to share any with me, but if I got fries, my mom would make me give them all to him. Or she'd wake me up at ten-thirty to clean up popcorn he dropped and yelled at me for saying "Zeke dropped it."

The excuse of "she's nine" is blasted! When I was nine, I raised a whole flock of chicks and only one died because it was crippled and needed to be put down. And I certainly didn't kill them! Heck, I've heard of first graders sucessfully raising chicks! Tell your parents that.

Next time your sister makes excuses, give her the hatchery's number and say call them and say that your sister ordered chicks, but because you're such a brat you killed them and now she's demanding a replacement. And make her use her own money.

 

[swift4me]

I can't believe I've read five or so pages of this thread.

Yes your little sister did something stupid. Yes, you have the right to be upset. Yes, your parents should hold her accountable.

But remember....

You're young.
You'll get past it.
Soon, you'll go to college, (you seem very articulate), and you'll have more important things in your life than chickens.
Your little sister will be your little sister for a long time.
There are alot of really bad things happening in the world right now.
There are at least a billion 18 year old girls in the world who would LOVE to have your set of problems.
It sounds like someone here stepped up and helped you out.
Be happy.
Be your sister's friend and try to make her a better person.
Spend less time on internet forums.

Just a few thoughts.

Pete

 

[Jessica Rabbit]

Wow! that is so terribly sad! I have two children, 7 and 4 that help me but even the 4 yr old knows that she is not to do anything to my animals without me being right there. I think your parent should totally hold your sister accountable for her actions or it simply teaches her that "as long as its a mistake its ok" which is a REALLY bad lesson. And if she doesn't get an allowance then maybe she could give up getting a birthday present or something and make it a present to you instead?

 

[MamaDoula]

While I'm usually the first to say that different kids have different maturity levels (my 5yo would have known better, for instance...even my 3yo), your little sister sounds a little indulged, honestly, for a 9yo. In my house, she'd be earning money without a rest until she'd fully paid you restitution for your birds, along with a sincere letter of apology and being your chicken slave for a week to make amends to your relationship. It will do her no good not to learn a lesson in restitution of property at that age, and it's much harder to learn outside of the home at a later age.

It sounds like your parents are getting a little lax in their old age.

You can let 'em read this, if you like.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your little chicks, and that your plans and efforts were frustrated that way.

That really, really stinks.

Pete- at this age, losing pets that you've spent a lot of time and money investing in because a sibling lacks basic respect of property IS a big deal. I don't blame the OP for seeking out a safe place to vent instead of going mid-evil on his/her sister's hiney, and seeking input on how to respond. That's actually a pretty emotionally responsible move, honestly, my hat's off to that.

 

[watersoflethe]

Sounds like you have had bad experiences with little monsters, but you are wrong about "never a good combination, and being stupid." Stupid is passing up the opportunity to teach, and the combination of kids and animals is the perfect opportunity. It is also a great lesson in death. It is time to plant some good seeds and not grow weeds. Get your little ones some animals and teach them some responsibility and the wonders of life.

you misunderstand me
i said good parenting teaches kids the responsibility. i never said raising pets wasn't a good opportunity to foster that sense of responsibility.
i'm getting annoyed at parents that do not bother teaching their children anything and being extremely lazy about it and thinking that getting a pet will teach the kids the responsibility and do their job for them. that is some stupid and lazy parenting. that's what i was complaining about
dont get me wrong, if you have taught your children well then having pets is a wonderful way to foster and supplement that education. i never said you should pass up that opportunity to help them along please dont put words into my mouth.
i was saying that parents that expect pet raising to TEACH the actual sense of responsibilty are being stupid.

but then again parents that do that are probably lacking in responsibility themselves which is why they aren't responsible enough to properly teach their kids anyways. sigh. they should make parenting classes mandatory to be taken at least once in your lifetime.​

 

[Stephanie-n-Hayden]

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