Should I be feeling mad?

[Wifezilla]

Some times I wonder if guys would even notice if we were gone when they got home from work.

Q: How does a man know when his wife has died?
A: The dishes pile up​

 

[rooster-red]

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Would your husband leave you on the side of the road to walk 4 miles in the rain? If he would then great, but if he's anything like my husband and wouldn't... well then that was kind of harsh. I personally wouldn't do that to my husband... but then every marriage is different and I don't have a clue what he was doing or saying, so I guess it's all a matter of perspective... on the other hand, without delving into it too deeply, that's pretty funny LOL

I didn't bore you with what started it all. and yes, if I acted like an immature donkey throwing a tantrum like his MOTHER, he would leave me at the side of the road and I would have deserved it.

However, I didn't pull over with the intent to leave him. I pulled over with the intent to calm him down. HE got out. So I left. He thinks it is pretty funny too....now.

A 4 mile walk can take the heat right out of a "discussion"

 

[the1much]

 

[hang_loose]

Hi, I'm new on here and I think this is my first post. This isn't supposed to sound mean but if that was all I had to be upset about for my wife missing some things I'd done for her, I'd blow it off. There are a lot more important things in our relationship to be happy for. Basically being a good mom, wife and good health.

Sometimes you don't know what you had till it's gone.

 

[Keisha]

You probably should talk to your hubby about this. If it upsets you then its worth bringing it up. I would be just as mad as you are though.

 

[mom'sfolly]

I think some of the reactions are somewhat harsh. Maybe mom's email was wonderful because it was unexpected. If mom never calls, or writes on his birthday, perhaps it extra special to hear from her. Yes, he was underappreciative of your effort, but perhaps he didn't recognize how special it was....he had dinner, time with kids and a bath. He probably has dinner most nights, sees the kids, and has the occasional bath; it probably didn't occur to him all the effort that was involved for a lovely, but fairly ordinary birthday.

Let him know how you feel. It will make you feel better, but don't be surprised if he is completely clueless.

 

[Quail_Antwerp]

Well, I say tell him upfront and honestly how you feel.

On the other hand, my MIL passed away in '96 and if my husband was able to get an email from his mother on his birthday, I certainly wouldn't be upset if he gushed over it.

 

[Missouri Maiden]

My mom get's mad at my dad all the time for stuff like this, but she never says anything to him. So I don't really think he knows what he's doing. If I were you I would say something (that is if he does this regularly)

 

[derby]

As an update -- I know how great dh is. Whenever I got upset yesterday, I would remind myself that he did build me a chicken coop last year and that's enough dedication for anyone.

But this morning, I had a mini-temper tantrum in private and then burst into tears when he walked in the room. So, I told him I was disappointed that he made a bigger deal of the email then my efforts. He was sorry I was sad and said the email was a surprise because his mother forgot his birthday for the last two years. He then did me a favor that I have been politely asking for 3 years -- he moved a derelict car he's been hoping to repair for the past 3 years out of my prime parking spot. Now I don't have to back down the 300' driveway at a 45 degree angle anymore. Wish I could conjur up some tears more often

Derby

 

[mustangruss]

Great to hear that he is making things up to you. But remember its easiest to take for granted the ones that matter the most to you. My wife forgot my birthday this past year but after 17 years of being married to me I guess Ill overlook it this time. LOL! I did end up getting a second mustang for it though.