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Well, hubby will now help, but I still have to ask for it most of the time (even when I'm trying to sleep
). I only ask when I really need it (like when both boys really need attention at the same time or if I'm desperately tired) so that I don't "wear it out". The main problem when I'm trying to sleep now is that hubby is too lazy to feed him properly. It takes about 30 minutes in a normal feeding, to feed, burp, feed, burp, feed, burp, then change (or change before, depending on how hungry he is, and sometimes you have to change him twice). Hubby can't seem to manage this half of the time. He knows that if he gives up, I'll get up and take over. It's like, come on, there have been nights that I had to sit up from one feeding to the next, feeding him for four hours straight, I'm sure you can manage a simple feeding. Yes, our son is a bit of a pain in the tush sometimes. It seems like no matter what you do, he won't burp ALL of the air out, and if you don't, he's uncomfortable, and is liable to puke everything back up. We'll try ALL of the different "holds" that the doctor's have suggested, plus putting him on his belly with something under him (a rolled up towel or your leg or whatever) to help work the burp up, etc. It's definately frustrating, but it's even worse when someone simply doesn't try hard enough. But, yes, it's a little better. I still want to strangle him half of the time, but at least it's tolerable. Getting a bit of sleep once in awhile REALLY helps a lot though, I'm not nearly as tired and cranky. Sad thing is, I think I'm going to head back to work soon. I'd LOVE to be able to get overtime when they have it, but I just don't think that overtime will be in my near future, lol.
As far as stay-at-home mothers go, well, I was playing that role for a little while while I was pregnant. I was laid off, so I was stuck at home. I did do basically everything, but I was also going in to work when they had something, plus I was doing as much selling online as I could to bring in some money. I did just about all of the chores, including some that I shouldn't have done while pregnant, but, they had to be done and hubby wasn't going to do it. To be honest, they think stress is the reason that I went into labor three weeks early. Anyways, like Pete said, just because a man brings money home doesn't mean that his job is over, he still needs to be a father to the children. A marriage is supposed to be a partnership. I guess if you don't mind doing EVERYTHING at home while the husband goes to an 8 hour a day job, then that's what works for you, but, to me, even if a woman stays at home with the children, that's a 16-24 hour job, so if the husband doesn't want to do anything around the house, then he should get off his tush and work the same amount that the wife does. But, that's just my humble opinion, as being a "servant" in the home is a LOT of work, especially when it goes totally unappreciated.
As far as stay-at-home mothers go, well, I was playing that role for a little while while I was pregnant. I was laid off, so I was stuck at home. I did do basically everything, but I was also going in to work when they had something, plus I was doing as much selling online as I could to bring in some money. I did just about all of the chores, including some that I shouldn't have done while pregnant, but, they had to be done and hubby wasn't going to do it. To be honest, they think stress is the reason that I went into labor three weeks early. Anyways, like Pete said, just because a man brings money home doesn't mean that his job is over, he still needs to be a father to the children. A marriage is supposed to be a partnership. I guess if you don't mind doing EVERYTHING at home while the husband goes to an 8 hour a day job, then that's what works for you, but, to me, even if a woman stays at home with the children, that's a 16-24 hour job, so if the husband doesn't want to do anything around the house, then he should get off his tush and work the same amount that the wife does. But, that's just my humble opinion, as being a "servant" in the home is a LOT of work, especially when it goes totally unappreciated.
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