So what do I do now???

[Sjisty]

Hi Tom -

Time for my 2 cents' worth. I think you made a wise decision. I can forgive anything but being unfaithful. That is why I divorced my ex, who by coincidence is named "Tom." My current husband of 11 years also divorced his ex for cheating. In my opinion, if there is no trust, there is no love, and that is a definite dead-end relationship!

Being that I'm happily married and a little prejudiced against your name, I won't throw myself at your feet, but it sounds like you are a good person and have your head on straight. The fact that you are in such a good mood after this stressfull event shows that you know you have done the right thing and are much better off without her.

I wish you the best of luck!

 

[hencackle]

The right kind of woman would have respected you and your property. She wouldn't give you reason to doubt her faithfulness either. Aren't you glad you found out her true nature now, instead of later in divorce court if you had gotten married? Treat this as a learning experience and move on.

As for me, I've never given my dh any reason to not trust me in the 2 years we dated, or the 27 years we've been married. Same goes for him. It's not a perfect relationship, but it's pretty darn good.

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

HA! I don't post pictures of me ever. I do have these at my house...

I also own my own power tools and I'm not afraid to use them.

 

[turney31]

 

[TCollier]

Looks interesting Citygirlinthecountry. Here is my gang. I think they might get along real well.

 

[Ema]

I didn't read all the posts just the original. I will tell you this much, no one deserves to be treated with such disrespect. even if she comes back and say well nothing happened, the truth of the matter is that she is obviously not looking fr anything too serious she likes to party by the sounds of it and finds nothing wrong with her behaviour. If you take her back you will just be teaching your daughter that its ok to act that way, treat people in that manner and that its ok to walk all over you. Respect starts with you. Yes you are angry right now and maybe when you calm down you might see things different and might even want to make excuses for her behaviour but don't do it. You should know that you deserve a good woman who will love you and respect you. Respect yourself enough to kick her to the curb, and show your daughter right from wrong from start to finish without stopping to your g/f level when she comes on over hollering at ya!!! Plain and simple the only thing you ought to tell her is ...you did it to yourself, maybe your ex will take you back...she does it once she will keep doing it.

good luck, and make the right choice

 

[churchx3]

Tom,

Regardless of anything else she may have done the fact that she stayed at the Ex's house is over the line. If you don't have TRUST in a relationship you have NO relationship...best of luck to you in your new ventures.... You are a good looking man and will not have trouble keeping warm this winter.

 

[TyrannosaurusChix]

Tell her to move another 3 miles down the road

Sorry she turned out to be a hag.... Youve made some good, sane decisions.. and since she didn't come running back or even act upset abotu it, she still hasn't gotten her stuff... good riddance!

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

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You tease! You know it is unfair on here to post pictures of a pen full of baby silkies. You will have hundreds of women swooning at your feet! Next thing you'll be posting incubator pics...

 

[noodleroo]

Y'all are so cute.

TCollier; sounds like your relationship was doomed from the beginning. She may be so conditioned to being treated badly that it may never be possible for her to appreciate being treated well. Remember the line from the old Pat Benetar song "love and pain become one and the same in the eyes of a wounded child". So true and so sad. You can't 'fix' her disfunctions.

So girls, he seems like a pretty good guy; I was convinced when he put a tarp over her stuff...