I read this thread, then a few others and my thoughts keep coming back to the subjects of people judging others and the inevitability of grief.
It is a beautiful thing that people have different values, and tastes. I'm older now, and find that I have less desire to please people than I did. There is no one on earth who has exactly the same feelings, likes, dislikes etc as Me. We are all unique, yet we want acceptance, yet, we may not always get that, as others too have their own set of likes etc. I think aiming for respect is perhaps more realistic, and respecting ourselves is a good start. Having chickens is unusual to some, and some people fear the unusual. But knowing ourselves and knowing that we are good people is really important, and our judgement of ourselves is more important than others judgements of us.
And, grief is a very uncomfortable feeling, but comes to us all many times over our lives. Caring, is opening the door to being hurt, as is loving, but the world is a bleak place without love and caring. Sometimes parents try to spare their children uncomfortable experiences, and that is because they love them. But, some parents know that grief is inevitable and so allow their children to feel the uncomfortable feelings while they are with them so they can help them through the painful times, and the children will have the experience to fall back on later in life when they are independent.
All of us feel sad when we loose a chick or a bird whe have had for years. I say GOOD. I don't ever want to become so insensitive that I can't feel sad when an animal that I care for dies. What kind of a person would I be then?