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[horsejody]

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Ditto.

I always try to dress nice for funerals and weddings. However, I am part of a large trail riding group. At funerals for my deceased trail riding friends, it is always customary to come in boots, jeans and a western shirt. Hats are optional, but removed in the church. The western clothes we wear are normally the ones that we also wear when asked to do parades. The boots are polished, and the clothes clean and pressed.

Some people do go overboard dressing down on formal occasions, but at least they showed up.

 

[Sunny Side Up]

Even more than a dress code, our society needs consideration.

If you're attending an event or a public outing, consider the feelings of your hosts and your companions. Don't present yourself in a way that would be considered offensive or outrageous in that situation.

In the same way, be considerate of your guests and your companions. Don't be hasty to take offense by their dress or their appearance. There could be a legitimate, logical, understandable reason for the way they appear.

There may be a select few people we're authorized to influence, our children, spouses, students, family, etc. To those we can instruct in the particulars -- "Wear this there! Don't wear that here!" Beyond that, try to exercise your tolerance first before jumping to conclusions.
Just my $.02

 

[Daycare Mom]

I can see both sides of this issue. We have been to funerals in the past where it has been requested that everyone wear jeans and what-not. As I see it, it is not my job to judge others, at least they showed up.

 

[DuckLady]

Unless there are specific wishes of the deceased to do otherwise in his or her honor, dressing conservatively will never steer you wrong.

 

[rooster-red]

I feel the same way.

My DW's uncle passed a few years ago, he was a farmer for much of his life after returning from world war 2 serving under Patton.

He had requested that his old trator lead the funeral procession.

Soooo...

We made it happen.

No one dressed in overalls.

My DW's cousin drove the tractor in a suit & tie.

Even the military honor guard smiled at that.

 

[thechickenchick]

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I love that!! Good for you for doing what he asked! I bet the cousin looked great driving it in his suit too!

 

[chickenbuddy]

Some people have not been raised in families that stress the fact of dressing nice for church and like events.

Sorry about the death of your friend, may he rest in peace and I'm sorry that you had to see the lack of proper etiquette their on that personal occasion.

 

[2468Chickensrgr8]

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HA Ha! thats cool....when my FIL passed on he was buried in his jean coveralls....my mother in law thought it was appropriate because he always grumbled when she made him dress up for church....also a very catholic family.....Everyone thought it was great! It kind of put a good memory on such a sad day....I wish we had thought of his tractor...he would have thought it to be fantastic !!!

 

[Mom 2em All]

When my stepfather passed away- his mother had wanted him buried in a suit/tie, etc. My mom said "NO WAY" - he always wore jeans and a flannel shirt, and that is what he was laid out in.

When my first husband passed away, his mother put him in a suit. I knew he would have hated it- and I made certain that he not have shoes- he was a flipflop or barefoot kind of guy. He would have hated to have dress shoes on for eternity.

When my best friends brother passed away, almost everyone showed up in thier Red Wing jerseys- because he was a big fan, and they all remembered watching the games with him.

No matter to me. I have always dressed conservatively and in dress pants for both funerals and weddings. Out of respect for the family that is there. I went to one wedding and reception where the bride and groom both wore over-alls, and requested their guests wear their jeans. On the flip side, my husbands neice was married this past summer and she had 21 bridesmaids in her wedding. It was so fancy, I didnt think I could afford to go to the reception- what on earth do you wear to something like that?
Her guests wore everything from suits to jeans. What a mix of people that were there!

When I die, I don't care what I am in. I hope that my family doesn't go out and buy anything fancy- and I don't want anyone to go out and buy anything fancy for themselves for my funeral either. I just hope I have people there to say goodbye.

 

[rufus]

I think it is a question of local customs. Funerals on the reservation are often a blue jean affair. It sort of depends upon who you are and where you are.

I told my wife that when I die, I want my ashes scattered in Wild Cat Canyon, but after the forest fire, it is all ashes.

She said she would just scatter them on East Van Buren Street in Phoenix, That is the red light zone.

Rufus